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  • Keeping_positive1Keeping_positive1 Member Posts: 436
    Ladies, ladies, ladies, why on earth are you pushing yourselves "working for the man" and you are exhausted.  Sometimes I just wonder if we have learned our lesson?  Do you remember the doctor who wrote that article?  She advocated looking after herself, and is no longer working, but looking after her health much better now.  I have some friends that their husband was happy they looked after their health and focused on not being exhausted all the time.  Is this an option?  
  • Keeping_positive1Keeping_positive1 Member Posts: 436
    @Sister I hope you can find a way around not having to go back to FT work if that is your wish.  Sometimes job sharing is an alternative to full time work, and I know of some women who have been able to achieve that within their professional careers in the workforce.  I hope you can find a balance that works well for your personal situation.  Take care. xx

  • ZoffielZoffiel Member Posts: 3,348
    Unfortunately, the financial costs of treatment --in my case repeated-- can drive us into situations that are not ideal from a 'wellness' perspective. I calculated that my last shitfight probably cost me close to $200K by the time I factored in lost wages, medical expenses and superannuation over three years.

    Would things have been different if I could have accessed welfare payments apart form the punitive Newstart while I was really in the thick of it? Maybe. But if I was relying on some sort of pension for any extended period of time, I'd have been stuck in an extended poverty trap that also would have been no good for my general well being.

    Dragging my sorry arse back into the workforce has been physically and mentally exhausting, but being bankrupt and homeless was probably not going to improve my circumstances. The bills need to be paid and the somewhat remote prospect of old age means I do need to do what I can now. While I can still do anything.

    Another aspect of this is a feeling of control. Cancer treatment is extremely destabalising, particularly for folk entirely reliant on their own resources. Getting back into the workforce can give a sense of progression that should not be discounted.

    I'd love to be in a situation where I could take it easy. I'm not. No amount of financial advice or planning can make the two bits of string that need to meet in the middle stretch any further.

    So, like many others, I soldier on. It has it's rewards.
  • Keeping_positive1Keeping_positive1 Member Posts: 436
    @Zoffiel I agree with you that the punitive Newstart is totally forcing people to live well below the poverty line, when in fact some should be on sickness benefits, but that doesn't exist anymore.  I wouldn't also underestimate the advice that can be given by a Financial Planner, I was guided to apply for a TPD and it was granted.  I wasn't successful in receiving a Disability Support Pension, but left on Newstart, been there done that, just an awful situation to be in, for sure.  Take care. xx

  • Blossom1961Blossom1961 Member Posts: 2,012
    @Keeping_positive1 I only just started and have four weeks of training first. I think the training is what is killing me. My contract is only until the end of January and then I will ask for Wednesdays off so that I am only working four days (with that break in the middle). If they refuse I will need to reconsider my options.
  • FLCloverFLClover Member Posts: 1,458
    Good luck @Blossom1961, I hope training eases up and you get Wednesdays off 🤞🤞. It would def help a lot. 
  • Keeping_positive1Keeping_positive1 Member Posts: 436
    @Blossom1961 a mid week break would be great, I hope you can get it off.  All the best and take care. xx
  • Blossom1961Blossom1961 Member Posts: 2,012
    I love the fact that you ladies care for me even though we have never met. Although, maybe that is why. lol  ;)
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