Help I'm desperate
My wife was diagnosed in 2006 after being told (following a biopsy) that she didn't have cancer!
She had a papaloma removed from behind her nipple and they found cancer in what they cut out despite having done the biopsy
That merely amplified her mistrust of the medical profession because prior to that, having gone to a different specalist with a leaking nipple he insisted there was nothing wrong and wanted to operate on the other breast so she walked away from him and didn't approach another until the nipple started leaking blood.
She spent 7 weeks getting radiation therapy getting passed from pillar to post as regards doctors because her allocated specialist decided (after our first meeting with her) to go on holiday for 5 weeks without telling us.
She was devastated by her treatment by the individuals involved and was recommended to see the resident psychologist who promptly dumped her as soon as the treatment was finished. Again, devastated, so I found her another psychologist who, after seeing her for a couple of years but achieving absolutely nothing then said he couldn't help her and again walked away.
Her experience is so radically different from that presented in the literature and by various celebs that she doesn't even trust forums like this one and won't join. She has become a hermit, won't go out, stopped working, lost contact with all her friends.
I don't know what to do, she is just angry all the time and that lands on me because there is no-one else in range.
Since the initial treatment she has had operations on the other breast to remove adanomas because the specialst thought she would feel better without them. Of course they neglected to mention in doing so they remove 80% of the breast volume so her body image is now completly scewed as well which adds to her trauma.
I'm at my wits end, I struggle especially because I can't even see how I can help beyond listening sympathetically.