Help I'm desperate

Well! wish we could meet in other circumstances but looks like we have much in common. I have met few Dr House in the practice of oncoloy tell it like it is.  Unfortunately, these comments and much more are often common in hospitals once you or your wives have been more than once like me then you understand  you not on the the glamourous side of cancer not anymore. What the media makes it up to be. You are right my wife oncologyst also took holidays at the time had excrutiating pain.

Then again soon after treatment everthing stops the patient and the carer feel dumped with nowhere to go not even friends. my wife like yours does not want to frequent boards or call organisations for moral support .  No wonder quite a few treated patients do not even want to hear the word c anymore the get frightened and have nightmares. Drepression? local GP do not know how to get around or provide for services beyond hospital care because they are not briefed or are just plain ignorant of either hospital social services or psycologist . I have seen patients dumped before and even refused services due to internal hospital paperwork transfers case in point my wife was diagnosed with twice with terminal cancer but the last time when she recovered she was refused a grant because she dis not belonged to a specific treatment centre but to palliative services they saw her on a way to recovery so they quickly dismissed our claims and that was a month after she left hospital with (secondary) pelvic bone cancer operation. All in the name of beaurocracy.

Tonya is right you always have to shop around even in the most pressing of the circumstances if my wife would have stayed in hospital after her first operation she would have died long ago and if I did not press her to go and see other seven posible surgeons she too would have died about two years ago Nov. 2009 so Yes! Definitely Tonya is right on the money.  Then again who makes it twice in a row or even four times back to hospital to know all this? 

But if any consolation Andrew let me extend my hand to you. Your wife much like mine has a great deal of frustration and resentment which is not good for her health and emotinal stability .You are not alone and I feel for you and share your frustration and anger. I often feel hurt and like a lion licking its woulds if anyone get my meaning.

Feel free to message me privately if you wish.