Hi Andrew,
I guess you have to "shop around"and find the right medical people that will instill that trust again.But then your wife has to be willing to try again.You can be miserable and wallow in it for so long but then you have to start climbing out of that low place.Sometimes medication(antidepressants)helps to kick start that climb.When I started Tamoxifen(an anti estrogen drug for b cancer) it caused me to feel quite low which is a side effect.So I went on a small dose of Endep and within weeks my mood lifted.I still have the occasional cry but my husband just gives me a reassuring hug.We are both accepting of my limitations and that helps.But I don't want my limitations to stop my husband from enjoying life.I want him to be happy because he has been such a great support to me.
Andrew ,as much as you care for your wife,take time out for yourself.
Tonya