Year 4 done and dusted woot woot !!!
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Congratulations @kezmusc! I wonder if that “some kind of something” you are missing is the necessity for the all-consuming effort it took to get you to this stage? Perhaps it left a vacuum and you haven’t had time to fully realize that the boring old ordinariness of your present life is actually exactly what you were fighting for all along? Perhaps accepting that a life that has been fought for so hard doesn’t necessarily have to be lived at the same intensity and will hopefully never have to have the same intense sense of purpose you have become used to will help dispel that vacuum and you will come to rejoice in having that very ordinary life because you know the lengths you were prepared to go to to preserve it. Just some thoughts from my own musings. Be kind to yourself as you go through this adjustment. 😘7
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Interesting @kamada. I’m not done with my bc trip yet, but I’ve been living as if I have and have also felt restless lately. I came up with the same reasons that you did for it.I also thought, I might be scared of having the final surgery as that would mean the end of the constant appointments with specialists and being ‘looked after’, and basically being left on my own again to resume a life I wasn’t (so) happy with previously. I guess I thought after ‘surviving’ this nightmare, the things I was unhappy about before would magically be fixed. And realising that they aren’t. The specialists fixed my cancer, I have to fix what probably caused it. And that’s quite a scary thought.But as my psychologist reminded me, I’m a fighter, and I will continue to fight for a better life. That, according to me now, means renewing my love for myself and taking serious action to change situations I’m not happy with, move if I want to, buy and use special things for myself, have a hobby I love, deal with things differently, eliminate unnecessary guilt etc., and just enjoy being 🙂.
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wow Kezmusc I am now 8yrs post diagnosis and doing well. Life is good.
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Thankyou @SoldierCrab
8 yrs wow. That's is excellent. So glad for you xoxoxo
@FLClover What you're feeling is very normal at that stage. The end of treatment is something we are so looking forward to and it is a surprise to feel worried about it finishing. It's also normal to assume you "did something" to cause it. Truth is you didn't. That fact is proven by the thousands of women and men fighting this disease from not so healthy to incredibly healthy lifestyles, the very young, the not so young and everybody in between from all different back grounds and lifestyles. Please don't think you did anything wrong.
I think if there is one thing I have learnt through all of this is it does give you a lot of motivation to actually change some of the things you weren't happy with. Because we now realise that life can change in the blink of an eye and there is no time to waste.
You won't change everything over night but if you try for one small thing at a time, they add up.
xoxoxoxoxo
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Nicely put @FLClover, the wish to ‘get back to normal’ assumes normal was good. Personally, I am not sure that stress or anxiety ‘cause’ cancer, but things that make your life unhappy are generally not good for us. Pre cancer, I had a good and happy life but seriously undercooked the work/life balance. Fixing that has opened up other doors. As @kezmusc says, small steps can add up to a lot. Best wishes.2
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@kezmusc @Afraser thanks ladies!! 😊. You’re both absolutely right. How and what caused it can only be assumed, because too many women (and men) with different lifestyles and backgrounds, ages etc are getting it. But the most important thing is to fix what we are generally unhappy about in life, cancer or not. I was
always one to change what I needed to, but lost a lot of that power and motivation about 2-3 years pre cancer. It just got so hard for some reason. Getting the cancer only made it worse, until I started getting my mojo back. So yes, it did eventually kick me into gear to start fixing things, one step at a time as you said. I’ve already changed a lot and am so much happier than before. But it’s constant progress, so need to keep it going.I’m glad that many of us are using this as an opportunity to finally do what we put off for so long, such as fixing that very important work/life balance.To us ladies, I hope it only gets better 😬🥂🤩😊😘3 -
Bit late here @kezmusc but congratulations lovely!
I've always been restless but it's far worse since getting cancer. And the Melbourne lockdowns this year has sent it into overdrive. For me I think it's also connected to menopause. We're no longer ruled by all those hormones urging us to procreate and nurture!
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@kezmusc Congrats my lovely on ticking off another year!! I have just had my 3 year mammo & got the all clear too so great way to end the year.
You are a true survivor & give so much to others on this forum. I think through the year we have all had, it has stirred up even more emotions that have made us feel confused, anxious, depressed & many other emotions that we didnt even know we had!! Add to that, being in lockdown with just you & your thoughts going over & over & over.....its no wonder you are feeling restless.You are being very proactive taking up a new hobby & I reckon painting would be a very calming & relaxing way to pass the time...may be not for me as I would suck at it...but I reckon I would get plenty of laughs from my attempts!
I hope once we all turn over the calendar to 2021, we will all have a spring in our step! With borders easing, we can go out & live life & enjoy this wonderful country. Poor Fraser island! I have been there too & am saddened to see the devastation on such a magical place. Glad you got to enjoy it when you did. take care my friend. Love & strength to you xx
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Congrats @kezmusc and all you others who are years down the line - gives us all such hope. I am just over a year post surgery, chemo & rads were earlier this year and am on the dreaded Letrozole. I too have felt that restlessness and have not known what to do with it - finally I have made a momentous decision - we bought a caravan about a month ago (never been camping in my life) I resigned from my job 2 weeks ago (finishing on 31st March 2021), we are going to sell our house in Feb and once that is sold my husband will leave his job and we are going to travel around Australia - where ever we are allowed to go depending on covid. Beagles are coming along tor the ride too.
Would we have made this decision if i had not gone through this shitfight of BC - who knows but not really likely - I feel like life is too short and who knows what is round the corner - are we rich,no - will we run of out money maybe at some point but life has a way of working out so we are going for it. Happy days ahead for all of us I hope xx10 -
@Beaglemum I am so jealous. We did the same thing, starting eight years ago and lasting three years. We worked whenever we could find work. I plan on doing it again. We threw away our jobs, sold our house, ignored heaps of family members who all had reasons we shouldn't go, loved every minute of it, and came back broke. Go for it I say.3
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We have friends that are nomads, have been for in excess of 25 years, trusty caravan. They house sit where they can and follow the fruit. Cherries are their preferred
Enjoy the experience
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@Beaglemum that is absolutely fantastic!! I’ve been wanting to do that for ages, but can’t afford a caravan just yet 😆.I totally agree with you that life has a way of working out, and the walls of a house is not what you are going to remember when you tell people stories of fun times. Money is fluid, it comes and goes, and time spent worrying about it is time wasted as I’ve learnt. Good luck!! 🍀♥️@Blossom1961 good on you!! 👏🏻🥰2
