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1st post
Hi Everyone This is my first post, so it may be a little long. Really need to find out if there is anyone else in this situation or have been through this and any ideas on how to cope best... I was diagnosed last september and a week later I had a skin saving mastectomy and reconstruction. 4cm mass left breast, 3 nodes…
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All Hail The Carer
My husband, Iain, has a virus @ the moment and is experiencing an uncontrollable urge to sleep. He has spent the last two days on the couch in and out of consciousness and requests for something to eat or drink. It hits me today that this what he does for me everyday. It's hard work!!! However, it was also a good couple of…
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What can partners do to help?
Hi all This is Annie from BCNA’s Policy Team, and I’m writing this post because I need your help. We are currently putting together some information to help partners of women diagnosed with breast cancer, because we know they can also find it really hard to cope. We want to include some suggested things/tips that partners…
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being the strong man is hard
I think my poor husband has hit the brick wall today after spending hours at Peter mac hospital yesterday me having a bit of a crying moment and he has not once hardly left my side except for work does not want to go to work today just wants to be left in bed to sleep all day he said . He also had a massive binge day of…
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just joined
Hi All, Just joined this group and keen to hear from people to see how they are supporting their partners with breast cancer, as well as coping themselves. My wife has just completed chemo and radiotherapy, I couldn't be any prouder of how she has coped with everything. Now we are focussed on her getting back to full…
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Lets support our boys too! Online Partner Support Group
Hi Ladies I just wanted tell you about some of the support services available here on this site for our men. My husband was a tower of strength for me (as I am sure many of yours are/or try to be), but I found it surprising when he told me years later that he often drove to work with tears streaming down his face, thinking…
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Partners get together
Hi all, I wanted to let you know that BCNA will be hosting a male partner information and brainstorming session on 30th November in their Melbourne offices and would like to extend an invitation to 'For the boys' online support group. As most of us are interstate it may not be possible to attend, but for those who can it…
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Partners Support Speech at the Lodge Friday 21st October 2011
Hello to everyone , Here is a copy of my speech from Friday . I hope that partners can see that our stories are all similar in some way , but we all take a different journey Life before breast cancer our story Liz and I have known each other since we were 8 years old. Our paths had crossed over many years but we had no…
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Stage 2 breast cancer
My name is David and I lost my beloved Wife suddenly on July 11 2011 to Secondary cancer. We were very close and to lose someone in their early fifties is so sad. What is so hard is nothing was prepared for this or expected. The doctors were shocked. What I can say is please organise your afffairs and pray they are not…
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Husband not coping
I am not coping with my husband not coping!! He has become really angry and refuses to talk to me about things. He says I am putting far too much pressure on him and the kids but I don't understand how. He told me to back off. He has started swearing at me in front of the kids which is really not like him at all. He is…
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The meaning of caring
Hi I do feel much like samoua but my wife has been a low profile cancer sufferer and she came from gynocological cancer to skin, breast and bone so quite a few years have have spent as a carer. I think people underestimate the role of carers and indeed we cases even alienated. To me cancers are cancers no matter where they…
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my partner left me for his massage therapist
my partner left me for his massage therapist 6 weeks after my mastectomy. They two timed me behind my back for 2.5 months before dumping me for dead. The shock of the betrayal, deceit and lies has meant i have never recovered from surgery, my immunity plummetted - not being able to shake off infections nor all over body…
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Sydney Male Partners Support Group
If you are (or know of) a man whose partner/wife/girlfriend is currently or has recently gone through her treatment and you are interested in getting together every month, please drop me a line via the Sydney Male Partners Support Group. With the incredible help and support of the NSW Cancer Council I am able to kick off a…
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Men who have lost a partner to breast cancer
Hi this is my first blog post to the BCNA site. I've just joined, hoping to make contact with other men whose partners/wives have died as a result of breast cancer, either directly or indirectly. My first wife, Kate, was diagnosed in 1992, and fought the cancer for five and a half years, before committing suicide in 1997,…