Hi @Sharla - so sorry to read of your own diagnosis ... I hope you are recovering ok from the surgery. Make haste slowly .... and all the best for your pathology reports next week. The waiting really sucks .... trying to keep busy really helps pass the time xxx
@CarrieP - so sorry to read of your diagnosis and the obvious shock that you are in .... Your whole world is turned upside down in a millisecond, as you navigate unknown areas of our health system! It is almost a conveyor belt! First you do this, then this, then go there and do that, then come back here and do this .... and it may take a year or two for your life to settle down.
It is totally 100% ok to skip between anger, denial, sadness - but if your find the sadness is overwhelming you, please seek professional help! Your GP may be able to refer you ... or your local Breast Cancer Centre May have help there .... where you are more likely to find a bc specific psychologist. Just talking about it openly and sharing it with a professional should be able to give you coping mechanisms ...
You will make new friends who will support you (specially on this forum) and may even lose some old ones, who just do not understand what you are going thru. Most of us here, have found wonderful friends within the group and have even met up with them in ‘real life’ before this Covid thing!
Personally I found that it mucked with my BRAIN more than anything else! And sometimes that is very hard to control, as it has a mind of its own! Keeping BUSY, doing things is the secret .... get back into your hobbies or take up a new one - even more so now since Covid!
@iserbrown has put up some terrific links to help explain all the terminology so I’ll whack up some of the ‘funny ones’ to help while away the waiting times ...
Try & keep your sense of humour 'up there' - we have a really good 'funnies page' (called Friday Funnies, but we add them every day!!) Just click on the link to add pics and posts ...
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/19116/friday-funnies#latestand some ‘wise words’ to give you a lift now and then ...
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/20854/wise-words#latestIf you are into arts & crafts, we have a 'Creative Corner'
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/14979/creative-corner#latest and if into your garden, a Gardening post as well!!
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/comment/186078#Comment_186078Try not to use Dr Google as there is just so much conflicting information out there, and every BC case is 'unique' and it will only scare the pants off you!
All the best with your ongoing appointments. We have some posts here on what to take with you too, to make it 'easier' on you.
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/16442/prep-for-surgery/p1and for your annual checkups, some ‘tick sheets’ to help you put your questions together for your medical team.
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/21973/questions-to-ask-post-surgery-of-yourself-to-your-specialists-tick-sheets-self-assessment#latesttake care both of you, and all the best for your ongoing appointments xx