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EarthWalkerLish's avatar
8 years ago

Life after treatment

Hi all I thought I'd start a new thread as I've been reading through the post on After effects from treatment.  I love all of your replies they give me comfort, relief and validation. I didn't want to detract from the discussion that @fairydust had started, but wanted to go in a different direction.

I have just passed the 1 one year anniversary of my diagnosis.  I had breast conserving surgery, I finished chemo in October and rads in December last year.  I'm now on Zoladex monthly injections and am feeling the effects of everything. I have breast oedema and many long term side effects.  I'm a bit tired of massaging my chest/breast and end up trying to manage other aches and pains like the numbness and pins and needles and ache in my hands and fingers. I'm now wearing wrist braces to bed at night to help combat the pins and needles and it's definitely helping.

I guess it's an emotional time for me being one year on. I'm very accepting of my new normal, as I'm also living with hypothyroidism and hashimotos autoimmune disease, anxiety and depression.  So managing my mind, body, side effects aches and pains is a full time job  :D  What I have a difficulty with is my husband who switches off when I discuss any of my health issues and feels that I should be out working and earning money to contribute to our family.  I have 3 boys 2 teenagers and 1 still in primary school.  I have been a stay at home mum doing odd jobs etc.  After going through breast cancer treatment he thinks I'm pretty much over it and am very lucky because I got off lightly.  He also says if it were him he wouldn't have chosen chemotherapy and just gone with radiation.  How do you all deal with this kind of reaction from your husband, partner, family members?

Thanks
Lisha xx

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