@melclarity Thanks Melinda. It's funny, when I'm upset he'll ask Are you Ok? in a demanding kind of tone (not soft and gentle like we would appreciate) and he won't really wait for an answer before telling me what I should do to fix whatever it is that may be bothering me. Many times I'll say that I just need him to listen and not to try and fix the problem. But he does notice if and when I'm sad and he'll tell my boys to come and give me hugs. So I do get hugs and some sympathy from my boys, but I don't want to burden them too much. I'm afraid his disconnection just leaves me to have no expectations of support and understanding which is how it basically is. Lxx