Life after treatment
Hi all I thought I'd start a new thread as I've been reading through the
post on After effects from treatment. I love all of your replies they
give me comfort, relief and validation. I didn't want ...
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Thank you my wonderful advisors. There's nothing quite like experience and understanding from another who is/has gone through similar situations. You all have given me ideas and sound advice to work on. I have been seeing a psychologist for a few years and am still going on a regular basis to help me cope with life's ups and downs and a husband who does seem to lack the empathy gene. He is not totally cold hearted and is a good man and father to our 3 sons. So I am doing ok and I do get good support and empathy from female family and friends.
It's funny because I've been working on trying to get myself back in the workforce for a couple of years now. Anxiety has played a big part in making it difficult. Then breast cancer reared it's ugly head. I have learned to pace myself, be kind to myself and am working with my new normal, as opposed to the new normal I had to work out before breast cancer( with anxiety/depression/hypothyroid etc, if that makes any sense). I do understand it is a lot of pressure on him to be the soul bread winner, but I know my body doesn't cope with too much energy being used up by doing too much, other than running a house with 3 boys and a husband and getting everyone to their soccer training and games etc. I do find many joys in my dogs, nature, crochet and now painting and drawing, I have learned to accept and be happy with those things that I can do and I'm not guilty for the times I need to rest and recharge. So I'm not a total misery guts and I've learned to shut out some of what my husband says as I know he's just not very good with 'health issues' and doesn't understand the body and it's goings on quite like I do. As for him going to counselling that has been something I have tried and coaxed but to no avail. I've tried to get him to get some help and support at the time that I was diagnosed with depression several years ago but that didn't work. You know support for the carer. But he wasn't quite the carer just someone expecting me to get better. I just feel so frustrated because he also shuts out my reasoning and justifying why I don't go out and work. Anyway.....I am doing a painting and drawing course which has been wonderful for my healing process. He's very supportive of that at least.
So thank you again for your input and experiences. Very muchly appreciated.
Lisha xx
It's funny because I've been working on trying to get myself back in the workforce for a couple of years now. Anxiety has played a big part in making it difficult. Then breast cancer reared it's ugly head. I have learned to pace myself, be kind to myself and am working with my new normal, as opposed to the new normal I had to work out before breast cancer( with anxiety/depression/hypothyroid etc, if that makes any sense). I do understand it is a lot of pressure on him to be the soul bread winner, but I know my body doesn't cope with too much energy being used up by doing too much, other than running a house with 3 boys and a husband and getting everyone to their soccer training and games etc. I do find many joys in my dogs, nature, crochet and now painting and drawing, I have learned to accept and be happy with those things that I can do and I'm not guilty for the times I need to rest and recharge. So I'm not a total misery guts and I've learned to shut out some of what my husband says as I know he's just not very good with 'health issues' and doesn't understand the body and it's goings on quite like I do. As for him going to counselling that has been something I have tried and coaxed but to no avail. I've tried to get him to get some help and support at the time that I was diagnosed with depression several years ago but that didn't work. You know support for the carer. But he wasn't quite the carer just someone expecting me to get better. I just feel so frustrated because he also shuts out my reasoning and justifying why I don't go out and work. Anyway.....I am doing a painting and drawing course which has been wonderful for my healing process. He's very supportive of that at least.
So thank you again for your input and experiences. Very muchly appreciated.
Lisha xx