Lisha, so true, men like to fix things and if they can't they don't know what to do, they don't realise that as women we just want to be heard, nothing more. Hmmm and I say let the boys hug and be close to you!!! It's not burdening them at all, it probably helps them too, you're showing them how to be emotional, that its ok not to be strong all the time. I learnt this all the hard way having to be the strong sole parent, Chemo sucks the life out of you, so my kids saw it all, but Im glad because it showed them the balance of being human. I say never too much affection LOL!! I love it!! just hard pinning down my nearly 18yo Son for one LOL, but he's my only boy and baby. Girls are different, but my daughter is amazing!
Lisha, I really hope you can find a way to connect with him, it's super important...gee what you said is exactly where I was 7yrs ago. xx