Life after treatment
Hi all I thought I'd start a new thread as I've been reading through the
post on After effects from treatment. I love all of your replies they
give me comfort, relief and validation. I didn't want ...
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It's amazing how people's perception becomes their reality. The fact that we choose to hide how we feel has the effect of everyone thinking we are fine and back to normal. My husband was amazing through the whole breast cancer roller coaster but he floored me the other night. I was explaining to the new partner of my best friend what my last 12 months has been like. He is a nurse so I figured he would understand. Anyway, at the end of my story my husband said - Jane was lucky, it's all over now and she is back to normal! WTF!! Does normal mean I now get to worry about every twinge, that I live with hot flushes, that I have a foreign body in my breast which now has no feeling! And 5kg I can't shift, dryness all over the place! and a bucketful of vitamins and drugs to be taken each day.
The longest part of my recovery was psychological and unless someone has walked in our shoes I don't think they can ever really understand how strong we need to be to put that happy face on. Just because we are physically able to work it's a whole different story to be mentally ready. All in our own good time!
I'm so sorry your husband isn't giving you the support you need. A lot of men just don't have the empathy to deal with a loved ones illness.
Either that or they are in denial!
Another reason why we are so blessed to have each other to talk to - we know that those on this forum truly understand. Sending a hug, Jane xx
The longest part of my recovery was psychological and unless someone has walked in our shoes I don't think they can ever really understand how strong we need to be to put that happy face on. Just because we are physically able to work it's a whole different story to be mentally ready. All in our own good time!
I'm so sorry your husband isn't giving you the support you need. A lot of men just don't have the empathy to deal with a loved ones illness.
Either that or they are in denial!
Another reason why we are so blessed to have each other to talk to - we know that those on this forum truly understand. Sending a hug, Jane xx