Found out this week I have DCIS

Hello @Blister 🙂
You are very lucky you caught it early, yes. The outlook is also fantastic 😊. However, it is cancer. And you need time to process it. And you have every right to feel like you do. It’s fine that people are telling you that you’ll beat it and to be calm, it’s necessary to have encouragement and positivity. But in the beginning I also think it’s necessary to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel about it. It’s your body, your battle and your emotions around it. And none is allowed to tell you how to feel about it. You need to go through the fear, confusion, sadness, anger etc. You need to feel all this. Don’t suppress or ignore it, or it will only get worse. Allow to feel what needs to be felt, then after that you can transfer to feeling calm, after things have progressed and you’re more familiar with the whole thing. 

Sorry to hear your diagnosis. No one wants to go through this no matter how good the prognosis. Its a shock and you will feel what you feel. Its ok to. Other peoples experiences are not yours and you have every right to experience it your way. All the best. 

It’s hard sometimes for family to hit the right note - too much can look like taking over, too little like not caring! It’s hard on everyone. I found the brisk, practical attitude of professionals helped a lot - stuff to be done, decisions to be made rather than too much reflection - I had plenty of time for that later, when I was much better informed and much surer about myself and what really mattered. And a bit of a melt is therapeutic! Take care, best wishes. 

Welcome @Blister

Truly stinks to be here but you're in the right place for warmth, understanding and a wealth of knowledge.  That beginning part just after diagnosis is nothing short of unbearable.  The rollercoaster of emotions and your brain continually conjuring up the worst possible scenario it can think of.
The ladies are right, as usual,  it is your show and even though you've been there with somebody who has gone through cancer it's never the same as when it's your name on the top of the results. 
Your hubby must feel like an old pro at this by now, no wonder he's so calm and matter of fact.  
The breast care nurses are the best go between you and the medicos.  They can normally put what they've said into a language us mere mortals can understand and will go in to bat for you if it's ever needed.

There really is no right or wrong way to get through this.  Just do what you need to do be that cry, scream, curse, jump up and down, go into hibernation from everyone else or all of the above.
One day at a time lovely.
Wishing you all the best and lots of hugs. 
xoxoxoxoxox 

@Blister I’m really glad you did 😊. Having those meltdowns and ugly crying sessions is a great way of releasing all that pent up fear and anger. And they’re the best when we don’t feel guilty for having them. It’s true that your family only have the best for you in mind, and will try to downplay it, thinking that will ease things for you. Unfortunately it doesn’t, not with something this big. When I had to go through more surgery, plus radiation etc, I just wanted my parents to allow me to feel scared and acknowledge that fear, because it was definitely valid. I appreciated my dad telling me he knew I was going to beat this, but I really just wanted someone to say to me, you have the right to be shitscared right now. So cry, and yell, and here’s a plate to smash against the wall, because it’s all valid. Luckily, my sister came through and told me to allow my emotions, so I did, and it felt better. She just sat with me and my fear. Then I sat with my fears, and asked myself what exactly was it that I was so afraid of, and whether it was realistic, and what could I do about it. That helped.