Anxiety and depression
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Hi all
Putting a new topic out there, & would like your comments if you've experienced similar.
My youngest sister had breast implant augmentation surgery for aesthetic reasons. Later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. She very rarely gets in touch. Granted, we don't agree on much, but I feel sad that she now calls us "estranged". Remembering printed information I received about some people, including family, not being able to deal with us having cancer, it may be guilt, fear or resentment, or even need all of the above.
She seems to have the need to copy things I say, for oneupmanship,or whatever, and it saddens and frustrates me. Does anyone else have this trouble with family members or close fronded? If so, how do you deal with it?
Actually, when we are together, outsiders wouldn't know. She can be very thoughtful and understanding at times. I wonder whether there might be a personality disorder there. Love to hear your thoughts.
Live and hugs to all
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Hi Kathleen. I understand how it must feel for you, My Siblings don't talk to me because I left the Religion I was brought up and I find it very hurtful and unloving. It sounds as though she doesn't want to know about what you are going through and doesn't know how to deal with it. It's probably better to try and act as if there isn't a problem and see what happens. My sympathy is for you XXX
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Hi Kathleen. I understand how it must feel for you, My Siblings don't talk to me because I left the Religion I was brought up and I find it very hurtful and unloving. It sounds as though she doesn't want to know about what you are going through and doesn't know how to deal with it. It's probably better to try and act as if there isn't a problem and see what happens. My sympathy is for you XXX
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Thanks Ruth. Yes, it probably is, thought I veryrarely get the chance to talk to her-she avoids me mostly. I think you're right-she doesn't know how to deal with it. Your situation sounds difficult! Thinking of you xxxxx0
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Dear Bella
Well, you weren't waffling at all. I think all you said is valid and possibly quite right in some instances. I Like your idea of suggesting gently to her how she makes me feel, but I d by think it will do anything. She just at wants to be distant, & she clearly enjoys calling our situation "estranged", even though she is the one who keeps her distance and is never in touch unless it's totally necessary.
Thanks so much for your insights-they've helped me a lot.
Love from
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Hello Ladies,
As well as seeing a Urologist for my Kidneys, I also had to see a Gastreonterologist this week. I had a colonoscopy in December as I have Lynch Syndrome. I had a polyp removed but they couldn't get the scope up high so I had to have a CT Colonoscopy. This resulted in me having another polyp which means that the specialist has to perform another Colonoscopy in a few weeks time. Talk about getting cleaned out!! I also have to have a Mag scan for my Kidneys next Week I will be so happy when I can go a Week without having to have something done but I should be glad that I am able to have this treatment.
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Hi Ruth,
you poor darling, there is just never a dull moment with you , and as it is , one still has to be thankful for the treatments!
I hope and pray that all will go well. Please let us know when you get your kidneys Mag scan and the removal of the polyp results.
In the meantime enjoy life and living because it is beautiful.
Goodluck
with all my love
Finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.
I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!
Take care ladies,
Bella xxx
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Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.
I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!
Take care ladies,
Bella xxx
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Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.
I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!
Take care ladies,
Bella xxx
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