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Hi I wanted to give you some positive it's 5 years post diagnosis for me and there are good days bad days and better days but you get there scathed no , different person yes, changed yes, awesome person yes . Adean
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Dear Lisa,
Big hugs to you, and just a quick note. A week ago I had my lumpectomy. Prior to that I was between being literally frozen with fear, unable to get out of bed and plotting ways to run away. After the surgery I was fine, a bit of pain still and tiredness but healing. But my fear has gone. I now have chemo, radiation and hormone treatment for the next year. HER2 positive. I know this is not going to be fun, but I think the actual surgery was my 'hump'. I have been told there are more advances in chemo and nausea treatments these days and I'm not lookng forward to my hair falling out or being sick, but I do feel the hardest bit is out of the way, especially in your case with a mastectomy. I may be wrong ... what do others think? Is the surgery the biggest hurdle? I hope so and wish you well. Please chat to the breast nurses and the oncology team as much as you need to to feel less fearful. I only made my mind up to get the surgery over and done with after the breast nurse physio spent time telling me all the things i would be able to do at various stages! xx2 -
Lisa, that is a lovely way of looking at it, i think that the worst of it is the fear. Fear of each step you face, as you face the unknown in each step. As you get through each step as you did the lumpectomy you realised it wasn't as bad as you possibly thought. So take that approach as you go and youll be ok.
In my 6yrs this is what ive seen to be true, ive been through the whole thing from surgeries to treatments and we all have different feelings of what is worse or harder. Fear is hard. You're at tbe beginning with the lumpectomy, step at a time...you will get through it all that i know. Hugs Melinda1 -
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Viking1, I agree the surgery is the biggest fear for me. I saw my radiation oncologist last thursday and she said it will definitely be a mastectomy. My tumor hasn't shrunk down far enough and only two more chemo to go. I feel scared and depressed and wish I could disappear.1
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Hello Lisa,
Reading your post gave me goosebumps because your feelings were so similar to mine when first diagnosed with Grade 3 stage 2. I found a lump the day before attending girlfriends funeral. She died as a result of secondaries to her breast cancer. I felt numb from that moment on and until chemo started. The numbness and fear returned before starting radiation. Lumpectomy and axially clearance with 2 nodes positive. Chemo for 5 months followed by radiotherapy for 4 weeks. 3 weekly herceptin injections to continue until december. None of the treatments were as bad as I had imagined. Now I feel I have given it my best shot. The ladies have given good advice and it helps to take it one step at a time to minimise being overwhelmed. You will find the health care team very supportive and informative. You will be learning a whole new language.
Wishing you the very best
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@LMK74 The day you book yourself in, sign the forms and get on the trolley may be one of the toughest in your life, but always remember you are choosing to do something in the hope it will save your life-- you've decided it's your best chance of survival.
I've found thinking about it is worse than doing it, which sounds like the sort of 'woo hoo' nonsense that we don't want to hear but I can only tell you what it has been like for me. Good luck. Marg xxx3 -
Hi @LisaO , how're you doing today? Lot's of good advice in the other posts so I'll just reinforce, keep away from Google, it can be a trap, unless you have been given specific websites to look at DON'T GOOGLE. Just breathe, take one step at a time. For me the operation was the most petrifying thing I have even done but the expectation was the worst. You might be finding yourself stuck thinking about the 'what ifs....'. Stop. Breathe. Do something, anything, get off your bum and go for a walk, do the washing up, anything to break the hamsterwheel thoughts. Ring your breastcare nurse, or the BCNA or Cancer Council helpline if you can't do anything else. They are there to help. Let us know how you're doing.
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Thanks for all the responses. So I had the auxiliary clearance last Thursday. Returned to see surgeon Tuesday for results...all nodes clear. Im now booked in to see oncologist 4th July to discuss my treatment "choices". I like the terminology "choices"...I'm trying to hold onto this word. The surgeon has suggested that chemo might not give me a good % to consider, seeing the amount found in my two positive nodes were so small,but my oncologist will discuss my options. I havnt got my actual diagnosis in front of me. Seeing Ive had two surgeries in the past 3 weeks, I'm focusing on my arm exercises and trying not to "google" too much, as staying positive is incredibly hard. Obviously I know hormone treatment is a given, just holding onto hope that maybe...just maybe...I might have dodged the chemo bullet.4
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Great news on the nodes. Your oncologist will give % differences with and without chemo based on pathology if you ask. Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Trust in your team in invaluable. Kath x2
