Losing friends because of Cancer

@jane84 u definitely find out who your friends are at times like this. I have found that friends I would of expected to be there haven’t been and other people I haven’t spoken to in ages have been incredibly supportive. 

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@Jax1964 it's so frustrating isn't it?? I guess we just have to learn to move on.  It's hard saying goodbye to some friendships though because for me before cancer they were great! When you care about someone you naturally hope they will care about you too.  It's sad when it's not the case :(

I was having a big whinge about this just yesterday.
I had a quick surgery last year, avoided chemo and skipped straight to radiation for 5 weeks.
I've not been ill... I'm perfectly capable of going for a picnic, coffee, dinner, movie but has anyone called - nope - nada!!
I'm perfectly happy to go out for dinner and NOT discuss cancer if it makes them more comfortable but seriously - they need to grow-the-hell-up.
As a wise friend said to me... they were there for ONE chapter of your life story. 

As a previous reply stated it unfortunately happens during every “change” in your life. When I first told people of my diagnosis people who hadn’t been around for a while  suddenly wanted to know me again with promises of visits etc but surprise surprise it never happened. It’s often the people who you don’t think of as particularly close who often end up being those who show the most care and the right type of care. 
I have also found 2 new friends from this forum who live locally. 

@Joannie I think I'll look into the support group thing! I think it's time I move on with some new friendships :) 

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Yes an unexpected consequence!  Some friends are seasonal, only for the good times and then there is those that you least expect check on you, turn up at the door with a cake or something!  So it works both ways, you lose some but you also win some!

Seeing your age group have you joined one of the groups on here, Young Women
http://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/group/10-young-women

Take care 

Aww thankyou @AllyJay I was reluctantly aware this may be the case :( I guess it's just really hard to come to terms with.  You'd think when something like cancer happens to a friend that there would be more care and thought toward that person, but I guess they really weren't 'friends' to begin with if that's not the case. It's hard knowing you don't really mean that much to some people!  I miss my life and the friends I had before cancer, but I know I need to move on.  Maybe it's time to make friends with women who have been through similar :) 

The experience  of this old chook (almost 60) is this. Whenever there is a major change in your life, there is some sifting out of "friends". When you marry, that takes you out of the "single" camp. Groups of single young women might choose to cut off the married one. She sort of cramps their style. Similarly, when kids come along, some childless step aside. They really have  no interest in sleepless nights, vomiting and trouble latching on. But by far, the biggest life change, is a life threat. You have rung the Existential Bell for some. FFS...if  you can get cancer, so might they...right. Their perceived immortality balloon has been popped. I don't know that they are afraid of you per se, but of what you have brought  into focus...the fact that every person born, will at some point die. Truth be told, you're better off without having to drag any extra baggage around with you at this time..a bit of pruning always improves growth, for plants and for people. Lots of hugs ((( hug ))).