Hair loss tears

Hi Chevvy ,
it is very sad when you start losing your hair. I got one of my friends to give me a no2 haircut so I didn’t have big clumps falling out and it wasn’t so sore. There is a light at the end of the tunnel - I am 5 weeks post chemo and my hair has started to grow back - I was very excited when I noticed I had baby eyelashes. I have to admit my eyebrows seem to be growing back randomly where they didn’t grow before . Just take one day at a time on this journey. Good luck and stay positive xx

Bless you for your beautiful words and thanku... I truly feel your support. 
I have felt great strength from the response of all on this site... words that ..yes...I would say to others but forget to say to myself... today has been a better day.  Heartfelt thanks for sharing your journeys...which allows me to understand and be more accepting of mine. Xo

Hey @Chevvy, I can relate to exactly how you are feeling. I cried absolute buckets when I lost my hair, I tried to hold it in and be strong, but then I just let the tears roll. You need to allow yourself to feel sad. It sounds like you see a lot of challenging situations in your job, but you are now facing your own challenge and it’s really important that you allow yourself time to adjust and feel the whole range of emotions.

I finished chemo last May and the loss of my hair hit me hard. People around me tried to offer comfort, but to me, it wasn’t just hair, it was part of my identity. It’s hard to put in words, but just know that I hear you. Things will get better. I enlisted a great psychologist who really helped to clarify how I was feeling. I bought a fabulous wig - people who didn’t know me did not know I was having chemo. My hair started growing during taxol treatment. I wished I was someone who could have just rolled with losing my hair, but it turned out I wasn’t and that’s ok.

You are not a failure, you are a person who is going through something that is really testing every ounce of you. What would you say to one of your clients who may face something similar? Without actually meeting you, I bet you would be incredibly compassionate, validate their feelings and explain that this road is tricky, but it is temporary and you would reassure them that they will get there. You will get there. Be kind to yourself, reach out to your support crew and take care. M x

I have to say, when it comes to this whole bc thing, nothing related to it in any way is petty. Yes, some things are more serious than others, but still, nothing is petty. It all
carries some significance related to our very difficult ‘journey’, for lack of a better word. Most of the time, these triggers are connected to deeper issues that have their own importance and usually need to be dealt with. We have a right to our feelings on these matters, whatever they might be. 

@Chevvy
Hello Chevvy
This journey can spark some unpredictable moments for sure , when the emotions rise to the surface and flood out! You sound like you are in a work situation that requires much empathy and and kindness for clients and the responsibility and emotional giving of it may drain your resources, while at the same time nourish your soul. Swings and roundabouts! It is absolutely Ok (and in fact  a good to release some pent up emotions) at the loss of your hair. I thought losing my hair wouldn't impact to the degree I had read about from others on this forum....but it did...but you get through it and manage and it grows back. I am at the stage where it is about 1 and half inches (in the old money!) long and I ask my husband how it looks.(he is used to seeing me with long blonde hair!! Anyhoo!) His response is supportive and understanding so that keeps me going in a positive direction towards a full head of hair in the future. And this will most likely be your situation as well. I highly recommend a good wig. Why don't you try to go online. There is a great company called WIGS Australia and the staff are very helpful.....I rang the customer services rep and she guided me through choices and particular aspects of the type of wig I wanted. I found wearing a wig liberating (it is very much a personal choice though) and it gave me the freedom to go to work or out and about and actually took my mind off my hair loss. Whatever works for you.....all the very best to  you. Warm wishes Patricia xx

Hi @Chevvy
I can definitely relate - I haven't cried as much through anything as to when the first signs of hair loss happened - even thinking about it would trigger tears. When I unpacked it further - it was because of thinking about going back into the office and having to either wear a headscarf or something out of character (or potentially have a shaved head - still TBC!) and face questions / looks when I've been able to avoid that for the most part. It's been very confronting - so I totally understand your emotions even though it does feel petty in some ways. Sending hugs!! xx

Feeling inspired and bit less weepy from your lovely replies. Thankyou ladies.... may your days ahead be bright.. 💐

Hello @Chevvy, you are allowed to cry.   You  have been through so much.  People don't understand how much our hair means to us. I never really liked my thick wavy out of control hair until it started falling out.    It becomes such an obvious thing that we are sick when people look at us with sad eyes.   You will get through this, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time.   I would put my head down when I was out because I couldn't always handle peoples sad looks at me.  Now my hair has started growing again and I think of it as another thing I overcame and became stronger for.     Sending you hugs xxx

Hi @Chevvy, we are all set off emotionally by different things and some days it is just like that. We have been through so much and I think it is just fine to have those days where the tears flow. Then the next day we pick ourselves up and keep going as we must do. I cried for 2 weeks when diagnosed.

Then I got on with it but the hair thing was very hard. I felt super sensitive about it. I shaved my head in wk 2 of chemo to a number one blade so only little hairs in my night cap. I had long curls pre BC. I had those curls for years. It was who I was. I finished chemo at the end of September and my hair has started growing rather think and short at the moment but I can see the ends curling up again. I like my hair short and I even like my grey bits. I think I will keep it short for awhile yet as I am not exactly the same person anymore. Cancer had changed me a bit so my new hair will go with that.

Hope today is a good day for you xx

Oh dear... just takes one trigger doesnt it... think I just had my trigger. Lovely ladies for sharing, and helping me to allow myself to be human too. Happiest of days to you all. 😊