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Ro10
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9 years ago

Funny rant for today

So I went to a new fitness class this morning which was called "gentle exercise" and is generally aimed at older people or people with beginner level fitness. It's the first outing I've had wearing a head scarf and we all got talking about breast cancer and chemo. Everyone was really lovely except this one grumpy old lady. She asked how my chemo was going and how I had been feeling. I said I'd been feeling quite good and energetic and she responded with "well that's not going to last - you'll just get worse as you go along. My husband had chemo 6 months ago and he still feels awful." We were talking about support groups and I said I had joined an online forum and she responded with "oh don't do that, that's the worst thing you can do. All those sick people will just make you feel awful!" This is coming from a person who's never actually had cancer and chemo so has absolutely no idea what's it's like. I just smiled and nodded, laughing to myself on the inside about what a depressing person she would be to have around. I'm under no illusions that the chemo is going to be easy and there is a possibility that I will feel worse after each one but I don't need her to remind me of that! Rant over! :s
  • @Ann-Marie_BCNA I really enjoyed the class. It's run by one of my friends who is a PT and runs different types of classes like Pilates and low to high intensity classes. You can change the intensity of the classes depending on your fitness level which is good. I think exercising is making a big difference to how I have been feeling and I intend to keep going to the classes through my chemo.
  • Clearly she helped you more than the sick people from the online group!! ;)
    I guess we have to learn to laugh at people's reactions!
    And as bad as chemo can get, keeping a positive mind helps a lot making it all more bearable!
  • Armchair expert! She's a real charmer - lucky you were able to smile through it!
  • Don't even listen to her. Everyone knows someone who has been through something. Somehow I don't think her husband was a generally healthy 34 year old woman. Everyone is so different. 

    I have been feeling generally really really well since starting carbo and taxol in comparison to AC which just made me really tired but felt ok. So just nod and smile and keep turning up to show her how you are going! Haha