I just found out today

@Charliegirl you may find support in some of our resources at BCNA as well, for example the following have been found to be useful:

• Watch BCNA's webcast: Just diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer, what’s next?

• Listen to Dr. Charlotte Tottman speak at one of our information forums about the emotional impacts of metastatic breast cancer

hello @charliegirl
I think it takes a lot of time to process it all because it is truly shocking news. All the suggestions here are great and also it helps to just have some time and space to come to grips with it all. Once you can start to think about things and start planning, it’s been helpful for me to think about what I really need and what works for me. I’m very lucky to have a specialist gym near by and the exercise is helpful on all levels. It is my main anchor now. I also have a number of the other support actions in place. Please stay in touch with us all.

Thanks @Mez_BCNA

@cranky_granny I can see approved 

@Mez_BCNA can you see whats happening with @charliegirl request to join the living with metastatic group please 

@charliegirl I’ve responded to your message 
Agree with all of the above as well, great advice there

I am So sorry to see you joining us here @charliegirl xx   Condolences on your father's passing xx. You've had a super tough few weeks xx Sending big hugs 

I 2nd everything that has been said above.  Treatment options have become SO advanced in recent years, specially with the immunotherapy options now too.   I have 4 close friends who have Mets - and they are enjoying life, living normal lives (some with minimal treatment) and are heading towards 10 years since diagnosis now .... 

Consider listening to Charlotte Tottman's Podcasts too ... she is a specialised BC Counsellor who was diagnosed herself with BC about 5 years ago.  She realised that her previous perception of getting a cancer diagnosis was totally different to when she was diagnosed herself.   She is very easy to listen to.
http://www.drcharlottetottman.com.au/my-podcast.html

take care & all the best xx

Hi @charliegirl
I'm so sorry that you have had to join this group. It is such an upheaval for you and your family. Talk to your McGrath Breast Cancer nurse(if you have been allocated one), write as many questions down as you think of them. If you have children, talk to their teachers, and get them support. Talk to the social worker/psychiatrist at the cancer clinic. 
And yes there are loads of us here, as the others have said, ask us questions.
Sending hugs
Anne

Hi @charliegirl, so sorry you’ve joined us here but you are in the  right place for support and help. I second everything julez1958 has said. 
My oncologist said that Metastatic breast cancer is now treated as a chronic disease. I don’t want to diminish what you’re feeling because it is very scary to start with. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in May 2022 and metastatic breast cancer in July last year. It’s a lot to take in. 

Hi @charliegirl
You are in shock at the moment -  a few things.
Consider joining the private group on here “Living With  Metastatic breast Cancer”
Call the helpline at BCNA
Stay away from “Dr Google” - there are many resources that are to be trusted - starting with the BCNA website
Once you get a treatment plan from your oncologist things will settle down a bit.
Metastatic breast cancer is not the death sentence it once was - many ladies live for many years and there are lots of treatments with new ones in the pipeline via clinical trials.
Consider seeing a psychologist specialising in breast cancer - your GP should be able to give you a care plan or if you are being treated at a major cancer centre they will often have free psychologists you can see.
Have you been allocated a McGrath breast care nurse ?
They are a great support for breast cancer patients navigating the system and a great source of information and support.
Also it’s ok to cry.
And call Beyond Blue or  Lifeline  if you feel really down.
No one said life was fair.
I have also sent you a private message.