I am So sorry to see you joining us here @charliegirl xx Condolences on your father's passing xx. You've had a super tough few weeks xx Sending big hugs
I 2nd everything that has been said above. Treatment options have become SO advanced in recent years, specially with the immunotherapy options now too. I have 4 close friends who have Mets - and they are enjoying life, living normal lives (some with minimal treatment) and are heading towards 10 years since diagnosis now ....
Consider listening to Charlotte Tottman's Podcasts too ... she is a specialised BC Counsellor who was diagnosed herself with BC about 5 years ago. She realised that her previous perception of getting a cancer diagnosis was totally different to when she was diagnosed herself. She is very easy to listen to.
http://www.drcharlottetottman.com.au/my-podcast.htmltake care & all the best xx