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ilovemamag
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11 years ago

My mum has been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in the liver

I found out that my mum has been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in the liver. There are no words to describe just how devastated I am. She was diagnosed with primary breast cancer last year in June and went through 8 rounds of chemo, surgery to remove her left breast and further radio treatment. I cant bear to see her go through the pain again. I love her so much. She is my best friend, my soulmate. My father past away two years ago after 12 years of living with the effects of a stroke. Not being able to speak or walk. She is my rock. She brought two kids up on her own. I don't know how to get through this. I feel so lonely. I am tired of being strong and brave. It is so hard. I just love her so much and cannot think of life without her. I have no purpose if she is gone. She was my purpose in life. I live for her. I am scared to think she won't see me get married, she won't be there when I have kids. What is the meaning of all of this? I feel so lost. I pray everyday that she can stay here with me as long as possible and cherish every single second I am with her.
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  • Robyn_W's avatar
    Robyn_W
    Member
    11 years ago
    Your Mum sounds amazing,and so do you!!!I have a precious daughter who is 24.She helped me through my diagnosis and treatment.I don't have secondaries,but I do know,that these days,women live for many,many years after a secondary diagnosis.I am sure that lots of ladies will come on here and tell you their experiences.This blog is always a bit quiet on the weekend,but during the week it picks up!!! Secondary BC is treated as a chronic disease,and there are so many ladies on here that carry on working,or with their day to day lives,once they have their medications all worked out.Please stay in touch,and try to stress a little less:) There is no answer to ' why me?'.We have all asked ourselves this,and unfortunately it is just what it is.I think that we should try to think about now lucky we are to live in a country like Australia,where treatment is THE BEST in the world.Take care,and try if you can,to look at this as a bump in the road,not the end of the road.Sending you a big cyber hug[[[ ]]] xoxRobyn
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    Deanne
    Member
    11 years ago
    I am so sorry that this has happened for your Mum. She must be a wonderful lady to have such a caring and loving daughter. I am not in your Mum's position but hope that some of the ladies on here with secondaries can help to reassure you that it is very possible that your Mum's cancer can be controlled (not cured) and give her a fairly good quality of life. I know that some ladies on here have been living for some years with stable mets. There are treatments that some people respond to very well. I hope that your Mum will be one of these people. I hope that you have some support for yourself so that you can continue to be a wonderful support for your Mum. My daughters have been and continue to be a fantastic support to me but I am mindful that this disease does effect the whole family, not just me. It has been important that they have support from others too. Wishing you and your Mum all the best and I hope that, with treatment you and your Mum can have much more quality time together. Take care of you too. Deanne xxx