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My sister contacted a brother I was estranged from and even distant cousins. I had people ringing me thinking I was dying. I too was angry about it but let it go. I had too much else to worry about. People do it for their own reasons...support, someone to worry with. Don't waste anymore energy thinking about it lovely. X3
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Thanks @primek xoxox0
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Ah @Kiwi Angel I want to scream for you - it sounds like you've done a lot of that and more today. I stew and stew on things like this and re-live the anger every time I think about it so by giving you my 2cents worth, I'm going to be one of those really annoying 'do as I say, not as I do' people, it's always so much easier to give advice than to take it yourself, right?
Still, the one thing I want to add is that this is HER problem and she will be the ultimate loser in the end because you will now distance yourself from her and she won't have any more 'news' to spread in the future.
I always say to my kids when they come home upset or angry that no-one can has control over your emotions apart from you. Only you can dictate how you feel about something. People can do their very best to get you angry or upset - it never ceases to astound me that there are people who do everything they can to upset someone (How can that be fulfilling? Knowing that you have intentionally caused someone grief?) but ultimately it's up to you whether or not you let them. It can be SO HARD to keep control when someone has betrayed you - and if you can do that in public (then crumble in private) then you have WON and they have LOST because as far as they are concerned, they have NOT succeeded. As I said, this is way, way easier in theory than in practice but it sounds like you've totally got this now and have come out stronger for the experience. Go you! xxx5 -
The frustrating thing about this is that it is done, and there's nothing you can do except take not for the future. Now, let it go - rant, scream, hit something, meditate, but let it go. You've got too much too worry about and their opinions are worth nothing to you.3
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@Eastmum thanks for your kind words - as usual all the ladies here have been fantastic support. She will suffer the loss of me in her life but the saddest thing is she won’t get why. She tends to have an ostrich issue and if something unpleasant happens that she gets called out on she just pretends it never happened and forgets about it. Being the second time she has done it to me though is the last straw. It’s sad because with this one thing she has undone every nice thing she did for me over the last 3 months. She must of been on the phone to them as soon as I was diagnosed - she told them ages ago apparently!!1
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So frustrating @Kiwi Angel - even more when she's clueless!0
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Thanks @Sister xo0
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@Kiwi Angel you can't undo what has been done.
You did say that this will probably negate all the nice things she has done for you in the last 3 months, that's a shame! Hopefully you'll find yourself in a better place emotionally where you can enjoy her company and the nice things she does and just be a little guarded in the information trail.
Take care
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Not betrayal but hurtful: out of four kids ONE gave me a sweet array of little gifts. The others, nothing. Not even an unprompted "Happy Mother's Day". I don't want anything more than a card, a bunch of flowers at the most. Ungrateful bunch. I don't know why they're like this. I always pay attention to the special days with gifts and food and celebrations. It's disappointing and makes me feel like I've failed in parenting...
Sorry, whinge over! I'll live. *sulks in corner*0 -
oh I hear you kmakm I had a similar day..... daughter arrives home at 5pm from day at footy with her boyfriend with a bunch of flowers I just felt over it by then. They just dont get it I will see you in the corner we can share virtual chocolate cake no calories in it
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@kmakm & @SoldierCrab big belated mother day hugs to u both. Xoxooxox. Even my cat got me a big w voucher.3
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@kmakm & @SoldierCrab I have had those type of mothers days too ! Yesterday wasn't too bad the boys came to our place for lunch with my brother & sil , we sat & watched the footy with my elderly dad while they prepared lunch ! Lovely !
However eldest sons girlfriend decided to get her knickers in a twist because they didn't get invited properly!! I had mentioned to my son what the plan was & could they come ? She was off to her mums , so what was the big deal ??
Would've thought they all could've put a bit more thought& effort into the day considering the last month !They could've arranged the day & I made that clear to my son. Think it's the dads that fail definitely not the mums !!
Since my mum passed I have dreaded Mother's Day , a card & Flowers & their presence is all I want !! It's always hit & miss , tears are not far away !
Love & hugs to all you supermums xx1 -
@SoldierCrab Deal. I'll bring the kj free whipped cream. Hurrumph...2
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Thank you @Kiwi Angel. K xox0
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@tigerbeth Eldest son's girlfriend needs a slap... Grrr!
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