It's remarkable what I difference one individual can make to our whole experience. They can make it a living hell or they can a difficult task doable.
I had similar experiences with oncologists; for me, finding the 'right' one made the difference between embarking on yet another punishing (but hopefully worthwhile) regime and letting nature take its course.
It's so important to understand that we do have choices. It can take some time to grow into that knowledge and not everyone realises that, despite intense pressure, there is nearly always time for a second opinion, and there are nearly always other practitioners who don't make us grind our teeth to stubs at night. Onwards. Mxx