Sorry Lois. I can't help you with your Femara but I just wanted to say it is good to hear from you again and hear things have improved. What an awful time you have had of it. Medical personnel can certainly keep us in the dark which is very annoying, My GP use to tell me everything which is great as the onco team certainly didn't.
You need to ask your onco what the benefits are of taking femara and how will they decrease the chances of cancer returning. My biggy was radiation which the radiologist insisted I needed but it didn't reduce the chance of the cancer returning. I politely told him no thanks even though he was pushing it rather forcibly. You do what is right for you and what you won't have regrets for later. You may not have any side effects from Femara and they can change it to other drugs if your body can't tolerate it. Decisions when our brains are not functioning well are never easy.