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Family Drama
I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and my stress levels, already high, are now through the roof.
What do other people do when they have family dramas mid-treatment?
I know that it is hard to get out of your own head when you are dealing with BC. Since I had the call back letter from BreastScreen it has been virtually impossible for me to think of anything else. But I have tried, especially with my family. I have plastered smiles on my face, I have tried not to worry them. I'm trying so hard to keep everything going. We are told to de-stress our lives to protect and improve our health. But what if the stress is from the people who supposedly love you, but who choose to either obstruct you, deliberately refuse to help, or actively attack you (for petty reasons while they are on holiday on the other side of the world I might add) while you are recovering from chemotherapy and preparing to lose your breasts?? I don't know how to untangle this knot.
I don't think I've put this very well, but I hope you get my conundrum. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? How do I cope with family drama while having treatment for breast cancer?
What do other people do when they have family dramas mid-treatment?
I know that it is hard to get out of your own head when you are dealing with BC. Since I had the call back letter from BreastScreen it has been virtually impossible for me to think of anything else. But I have tried, especially with my family. I have plastered smiles on my face, I have tried not to worry them. I'm trying so hard to keep everything going. We are told to de-stress our lives to protect and improve our health. But what if the stress is from the people who supposedly love you, but who choose to either obstruct you, deliberately refuse to help, or actively attack you (for petty reasons while they are on holiday on the other side of the world I might add) while you are recovering from chemotherapy and preparing to lose your breasts?? I don't know how to untangle this knot.
I don't think I've put this very well, but I hope you get my conundrum. Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? How do I cope with family drama while having treatment for breast cancer?
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- Have a lovely time away @kmakm , talk soon x
- Thank you @Sister. This is a dear old friend who invited us down when I was diagnosed. We had a long chat and then she said "I don't know what to do to help". I said you already have! The invitation for these Easter holidays has given me something to look forward to since December. With a bit of luck I'll get a speccy sunset photo :)
Mind you, the two youngest kids are already driving us insane in the car. Because their elbows are "touching"...! Garrgghh!! :# - PS I don't know Portsea buty cousin has a place at Safety Beach and I believe it's nice around there.
- Lovely - I'm jealous! Have a fantastic time.
- @Sister Neither can I. Brain is like a sieve... We're heading to the beach. A friend has invited us to join her in Portsea.
- Enjoy wherever you are going @kmakm (and if you've already mentioned it, sorry but I can't remember what someone said 5 mins ago) - leave it all behind you for the time.
- Thank you @Finch. Still reeling but I'll try to put it aside and then behind me, as much as I am able. I appreciate your support buddy! K xox
- @SoldierCrab Love the X & Y story!
- @Primek I have sometimes delayed my responses to her, but sometimes I think I am too conciliatory. I did respond immediately this time, but not at length. I really like your suggested response. I have screen shotted it to help me remember next time it happens. If it hasn't broken down irretrievably. @Romla & @Sister both cautioned delaying reacting as well. I'll have to tell my Irish hothead genes to settle down... Thank you xox
- @Finch We didn't draw breath! Soul food. K xox
