I just want to say I have had an absolutely shit day because of my family. Not the one I live with, but the one I was born into. I won't bore you with the details, but I've been incredibly upset, and ...
@Primek I have sometimes delayed my responses to her, but sometimes I think I am too conciliatory. I did respond immediately this time, but not at length. I really like your suggested response. I have screen shotted it to help me remember next time it happens. If it hasn't broken down irretrievably. @Romla & @Sister both cautioned delaying reacting as well. I'll have to tell my Irish hothead genes to settle down... Thank you xox