Hey all,I've joined this forum in the hopes of connecting with others. My mum is 69, diagnosed with breast cancer 2 months ago and now has been diagnosed with metastatic BC in spine and possibly lungs (they arent 100% sure on the lungs) as the spots are so small. Shes started oral chemo and hormone therapy today and will see the oncologist again in 5 weeks. She seems to be handling it well so far but she's not feeling sick or anything yet so i guess time will tell. Im sure its going to be a long journey and I'll be here to support her every step of the way. I currently live with my mum so im glad Im here to be there for her. I just wanted to pop in and say hi.

Dear @Formymum19 This is a very sad time for your family and we all who have lost our Mums know exactly how you feel. Whilst people say "it was to be expected" that does not help, does it ?Remember that she is now at peace and nothing and no-one can take away the wonderful memories you have in your heart.Thinking of you and your family. 💖

@Formymum19 So heartening to read that this diagnosis has brought you closer to your mum & you are now sharing time together more than before albeit under trying circumstances. It is so true what you said about "silver linings". I learnt early on that my way of coping or making sense of all of this is to try & take out/find a positive around every corner. It is hard & you have to look for it but if you dont, then you can crawl into a deep dark place that nobody wants to go to. I have found 'silver linings" & sometimes they are small but it helps me come to terms with it all & by sharing & helping others is a great way to get that positive feeling. love & hugs xx

Terrific, @Formymum19 that your mum is coping so well with the treatment. Yes, we have many mets members who have passed the 10 year mark since their mets diagnosis - so just getting on with treatment and living for the moment is the way to go I reckon. Making good memories with the whole family - so a lovely birthday 'do' will give her a lift.Take care & big hugs to you and your mum xx

Hello @Formymum19,I am so sorry to hear of your mum's recent diagnosis and all of us on this forum understand the fear and anxiety of receiving the news and then facing our treatment pathway.I understand Australia has a reputation of being excellent with cancer treatment, and personally I have been so happy with all the medicos and staff I have come into contact with. You will get lots of support and advice from members, even if its just to say hello and we are all here with you and your mum. I am so impressed you have joined us and how lucky is your mum to have a daughter like you!Sending you and your mum lots of warm wishes.

Wow guys i didnt expect so many responses overnight, you are absolute gems. We are in Perth. Mums initial plan when they thought it was localised was to have surgery and chemotherapy. After a pet scan and ct we were told of the mets and they changed the course of treatment so she hasn't had surgery yet. That will be later down the track. I have told mum of the online forums and the counselling she has available and she said she would use it if she feels like she needs it. Im just trying to be here for her in any way i can. Im going to help her out with some housework today so she can just relax. It's all been quite a shock and i dont think its really sunk in yet. But we will soldier on. Thankyou for all the lovely messages of support.

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Formymum19
Member
6 years ago
Wow guys i didnt expect so many responses overnight, you are absolute gems.

We are in Perth.

Mums initial plan when they thought it was localised was to have surgery and chemotherapy. After a pet scan and ct we were told of the mets and they changed the course of treatment so she hasn't had surgery yet. That will be later down the track.

I have told mum of the online forums and the counselling she has available and she said she would use it if she feels like she needs it.

Im just trying to be here for her in any way i can. Im going to help her out with some housework today so she can just relax.

It's all been quite a shock and i dont think its really sunk in yet. But we will soldier on. Thankyou for all the lovely messages of support.
arpie
Member
6 years ago
So sorry to hear of your Mum's diagnosis - and well done you, for stepping up to the plate and joining up on her behalf. She may even like to jump on as well at some time, with any questions she may have.

Where abouts are you (Town/City) as our members may be able to point you to specific groups that may be able to support you both as well.

You may also like to join the Metastatic Group, as you'll be able to ask more specific questions there. @Giovanna_BCNA
@Riki_BCNA - could you arrange for @Formymum19 to join this group?

One of my buddies with Mets also has small spots on her lungs - and is on oral meds - they are just monitoring it at this stage. Hopefully the oral chemo & hormone therapy will hold it at bay.

Did your mum have surgery after her initial diagnosis?

Sending you and your mum big hugs xxx . take care
Sister
Member
6 years ago
Welcome @Formymum19 We seem to be getting more support people joining up so no doubt one will come along and say hello. It's important for most of us to have someone we can rely on.
suburbangirl
Member
6 years ago
Hello @Formymum19,
I am so sorry to hear of your mum's recent diagnosis and all of us on this forum understand the fear and anxiety of receiving the news and then facing our treatment pathway.
I understand Australia has a reputation of being excellent with cancer treatment, and personally I have been so happy with all the medicos and staff I have come into contact with.
You will get lots of support and advice from members, even if its just to say hello and we are all here with you and your mum.
I am so impressed you have joined us and how lucky is your mum to have a daughter like you!
Sending you and your mum lots of warm wishes.

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