Wow guys i didnt expect so many responses overnight, you are absolute gems.
We are in Perth.
Mums initial plan when they thought it was localised was to have surgery and chemotherapy. After a pet scan and ct we were told of the mets and they changed the course of treatment so she hasn't had surgery yet. That will be later down the track.
I have told mum of the online forums and the counselling she has available and she said she would use it if she feels like she needs it.
Im just trying to be here for her in any way i can. Im going to help her out with some housework today so she can just relax.
It's all been quite a shock and i dont think its really sunk in yet. But we will soldier on. Thankyou for all the lovely messages of support.