Overwhelmed

Hi @Gin1966

Welcome to the club that no-one wants to join .... ask away any question that you want here & you'll get an honest answer.

Yep, It's a real train wreck to start off with - plus the shock of diagnosis as well .... we've all been there, so 'we get it' - sometimes, family & friends 'don't'!  🙁  They think that just because you've had your surgery & radiation, that your are 'finished' and 'OK' - and it  is not always the case - it can take a few years before you 'find yourself' again.   I found it mucked with my brain much more than I expected ....

That is terrific that you've spoken with the psychologist already, to give you coping mechanisms, as your emotions & feelings may well sway over the next couple of months - and years.

Try & get back into doing the things you love (as you are able to do so) or even try something 'new' - to give you the urge to get out & about ..... Yep - keeping busy is the trick, I find.  Don't be afraid to ask for help if/when you need it.

Try not to use Dr Google too much (difficult tho it is) as there is just so much conflicting information out there (and much of it is REALLY OLD & OUT OF DATE), and every BC case is totally 'unique' and it will only scare the pants off you!

As you haven't had your surgery yet, we have some posts here on what to take with you to hospital, to make it 'easier' on you.  
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/16442/prep-for-surgery/p1

And for your appointments & annual checkups, here are some ‘tick sheets’ to help you put your questions together for your medical team.  (Make sure you click on the documents at the BOTTOM of the post, as the others are only sample pages.)
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/21973/questions-to-ask-post-surgery-of-yourself-to-your-specialists-tick-sheets-self-assessment/p1

We have lots of different areas here that you can check out too - some for a laugh, some for showing off your art & crafts ... 

https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/19116/friday-funnies#latest
or some wise words
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/20854/wise-words#latest
 ..... you can show us how good you are at Art & Craft,
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/14979/creative-corner#latest
or show us your pets
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/15588/what-pets-do-you-have#latest
 & garden!  
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/comment/186078#Comment_186078
Or show us your quickest, easiest favourite meal ..
https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/18971/what-are-your-easiest-tastiest-meals-quick-to-prepare-when-you-cant-think-of-anything#latest

So take care, all the best for your surgery (make sure you have a small pillow/cushion to hug on your drive home from the hospital!  Any jarring by hitting bumps can HURT!  Hugging the cushion can minimise this!  xx