Emotions - the adventure begins

Yes everyone is different. But I honestly dont know where I got my empathy from! Thanks xx

My thoughts exactly Ruth!  I know I'll have good and bad days, hopefully more good! I'm still coming to terms with it thats for sure, and am still getting used to all of the support, I'm usually the one rushing around looking after everyone else! But I have to take stock and realise "it's my turn to recieve" ... thanks for your support and I hope you are on the road to recovery xx

Funny the people you think will help you most can sometimes be the ones you want to dump. A so - called friend just wanted to tell me how terrible life would be after she had such a bad time after her diagnosis with Ca breast, no supportive words just doom & gloom.

Yet others have been terrific!! I have not had many of the lows, seemed to have coped very well thus far so hope you can keep on an even keel but keep your chin up & have a tear or two when u need to. 

Good luck for Wed xx

Hi scorpionqueen

Sorry about your shock diagnosis.

There is a lot of awfulness in diagnosis, waiting and subsequent treatment. But there can also be a lot of awfulness with relationships. Especially with immediate relatives. We might expect support and love and kindness, but some relies are shit at that.

Not sure who recently posted this Ring Theory, but I think it's a great summary of what not to say to someone who has cancer (or any other rubbish diagnosis).

http://articles.latimes.com/2013/apr/07/opinion/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407

Just because they are related, you don't have to have anything to do with them. If you do, you can control your expectations of their rubbish abilities, although that's easier said than done.

I had the same type of cancer as you diagnosed late last year, and wish you all the very best. You can do this. Surround yourself with good eggs and positive stuff. The crappy people can bugger off.

x

I usually turn to my art for therapy, but not in the right frame of  mind yet....it will come though and i will fight! thats for sure ...thanks for your support xx

Thanks Rowdy,

Unfortunately my sister will never change and what makes it worse is she is a nurse! I have just finished nursing my dad through metastatic prostate cancer AND my mother in law, ,pancreatic cancer...they passed within one year of each other and not once did she lift a finger..... But me being me, i thought she would show something....anyways have to put that behind me and concentrate on ME!  Thanks for your support, and yes its an up and down ride for sure, but i'll hang in there I  hope......xx

Thanks Karen, xx

Anger, sadness,tears and laughter is what I would call my emotions and more. I think for me the highs and lows of emotions is one of the hardest things.This is the trip that dosen't stop giving one day at a time is my motto  Your sister is in shock and terrified it could be her next time. Unfortunately some people don't know what to say, my older sister always told me how strong I was until one day I told her she needed to stop saying it because I was just trying to get to the end.

Good luck with your surgeryxx

Hi, welcome to the site but I'm so sorry you have had to join us.   it's such an awful time on so many levels. The waiting, the not knowing, the dealing with others reactions.  Surround yourself with those who are going to support you. Unfortunately it seems to be that you will definitely learn who your real friends are at this time. 

It will all seem to go in a blur until you know exactly what you are dealing with and what your treatment will be. It is very scary but breast cancer has a high survival rate and is very treatable. Treatment sucks but you will get through it, we all do, and you will receive lots of support from here. Try to plan something nice for yourself whilst you are waiting. Take one step at a time and one day at a time and you will get through this. Take care and all the very best for your surgery. Karen xox