Stop the ride...going too fast

@lovemelrose I think this period that you're going through is the hardest.  I remember veering between despair and numbness.  Once the treatment actually starts, you should find that you are a bit more centred.  Maybe still very scared and anxious but the out of control kind of feeling should settle a bit.  Your job now is to manage your health and well-being as best you can - it can be difficult with young children (and I guess by the nappy comment, you've got at least one very young one).  It's very hard to stay away from Dr Google but I would advise it, too.  There are a few good sites out there - mostly ones that are similar to this.  Remember that a lot of what you may read when googling is based on old data and stats.  Breast cancer treatment has come a long way in a short time and I believe that is extra true for triple negative.

You may wish to join the young women's closed group on this forum.  Take care.

Hello @lovemelrose

I was diagnosed in Feb this year at the age of 39, found it myself and was also initially told it’s prob a cyst. They then found two
more in the right breast, and one in the left. No family history and got tested for BRCA gene due to them not being able to find any other reason (got results recently and am negative 🥳). To say I was shocked and petrified is an understatement. I still get flashbacks from those early days, esp after my double mastectomy. Those feelings don’t stay. Make sure you have a medical team you trust 100% and you’ll be just fine. It’s very hard to go through but it does get easier, and you will start to feel a little more ‘normal’ pretty soon. Leave google for now and get any info you need from this site and from your medical team. Just remember one thing, you can beat this without a doubt. That’s all you need to tell yourself. I also have a young daughter and she is my biggest motivation, as well as myself. Keep in touch 🍀❤️.
Mon Xx

Hi @lovemelrose 
this bit at the start is the hardest. The world feels like you are swirling around and you are trying to process a million pieces of information and all the feelings too. Just take it  One step at a time.
And stay away from google! The best, most relevant info is here at the BCNA.
@ddon is right, we are one of the top places in the world for treatment of BC. Us and Finland lol!
Its a fact. And what her oncologist said is gold, control what you can, and leave the rest for your team. 
There is great support on here, feel free to ask questions and vent.  We all get it  ;)
You can do this gurl!
Sending big hugs 

Caz x

Big big hugs @lovemelrose. I feel like I’ve been shot out of a catapult and have little control over what’s going on. I have been contacted by several counseling services through the Cancer Council, Canteen, the hospital where I am being treated and the Breastcare nurses at my local Cancer Centre. Chat to your Breastcare nurses and see who they  can put you in touch with. Even chatting to them can be a big help. Xxxx

Yes, try and focus on the here and now, once that's done, then look at the next step...I used to have a meltdown before I started something new...surgery, got through that, then radiotherapy, got through that, then medication, trying to get through that. For me it's fear of the unknown, once I get started on the known, I'm ok...Next for me will be 12 month scan in November...a bit of scanxiety coming up. One step at a time..and know you have lots of people here who are dealing with similar things...reach out if you need...

Please don’t google. It just terrifies you and right now the shock and fear are overwhelming enough without Dr Google putting His bit in. 

HI, it sure is a fast ride. Processing everything is hard. Just as you find out one thing and try to deal with that, there is something else that comes along it seems. I know it is a ride but everyone here on this side is here for you. It is great yoy joined this group.  Try to use this site rather than the wide google thing. The other site that is helpful is the cancer council if you must. Big breaths, stay busy which is easy with 2 girls to keep you occupied.  Stay in touch here with everyone. Sending hugs ❤

@lovemelrose

There's so much to take in and terminology that is not part of the everyday so concentration on what it actually does mean as well as......

This link from the BCNA website hopefully will help and also give you an opportunity to absorb and formulate questions for your next appointment

https://www.bcna.org.au/understanding-breast-cancer/what-is-breast-cancer/triple-negative-breast-cancer/

https://www.bcna.org.au/resource/fact-sheet-breast-cancer-pathology/

and there's also a group within that may interest you

https://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/group/10-young-women

Take care and take a deep breath as there's a lot to take in 
Keep posting as there's always someone online that may relate to your question and help you out

Have you had gene testing already or are they assuming this?. It generally takes some time for those results and requires 2 blood tests. My surgeon truly believed I had this also but I didn't.  It didn't impact my initial treatment just what I did after.

It's a whirlwind in the beginning. I hope you have been connected with a breast care nurse.

There is a reconstruction group on here if you are interested in joining to talk about options and see pictures.