Stoic? Why? Venting

Greengirl

I couldn’t agree more @Sister 😘

kamada

Hear you @Sister! I ended up almost resenting being told how well I was coping and how positive I was etc etc. Even though I knew it was well meaning and meant as encouragement I started to feel I always had to present myself in the strongest possible light.  Yes there were times when I did feel stoic or brave or lucky or whatever but there were also times when I was so resentful or scared or feeling absolutely shitty but I ended up not giving an honest response even when what I really wanted was a shoulder to cry it all out on because I didn’t want to seen as weak or not coping. I have learnt that reactions are complex and at times contradictory when dealing with such long treatments and side effects etc and I agree with the others that until you are in a situation you can’t truly understand no matter how hard you try to emphasise. It is such a blessing to have this place where there is no barrier to laying it all out in the open knowing you are surrounded by those who offer nothing but understanding and support with no judgement so get out there and to hell with other people’s opinions or judgements. 😘

Zoffiel

@sister none of us are less worthy. We may be damaged, broken, staggering in circles, exhausted, confused and generally battle weary, but anyone who thinks they can do better .... Ah, I can't wish misfortune on anyone, it's bad karma. Or something. 
If they had to walk a mile in our shoes, there would be a terrible sooking of the la-las. Trudge 500 miles, then they might get it. Mxx

Tasia

I love this discussion - its heart speak, not mind speak. Thank you x

I cringe when someones vocal chords have mastered the - how are you question? feeling better? 
Followed by ʻjust be positiveʻ ʻyou have to fight this there are people in worse situationʻ ʻI know, I knowʻ
Followed by a barrage of their unwellness stories ʻsore neckʻ ʻheadacheʻ ʻtired from workʻ 

I have minimal tolerance these days and shut down. Itʻs not that I am disinterested or do not empathise however, I do think please spare me!

Anj_j2020

Stoicism is a coping mechanism like any other. x