husband not coping with my physical appearance since failed reconstruction



  • primek
    primek Member Posts: 5,392
    I was going to suggest wearing a pretty nightie if nudity makes you uncomfortable. My weight has fluctuated widely since breast cancer and I struggle keeping it down. It doesn't bother my husband but does me. My recon was not a failure but when I gain weight now I just get side boob rather than bigger boobs which I loathe. I personally avoid mirrors when naked and just try to dress so I feel feminine. I'll never know I guess if I would have had such weight problems without bc but looking at my siblings it was likely to have happened regardless.
    They were cruel comments and I doubt his body is the same as when you married him also.
    Hopefully you can forgive and forget (I doubt I ever could) and remain happy together.