floundering
Hey everyone Im new here and just found out I have invasive lobular carcinoma grade 2. I’m in shock after a whirlwind 2 weeks of tests. Today it’s hit me hard. I’m 68. I’m now taking Letrzole and surgery is 12th August. I’m having a lumpectomy and although no lymph nodes are involved, the surgeon is taking 3 nodes for testing. I am also dealing with CPTSD and all of this has triggered me. I just cry a lot. I don’t know who to turn to for support. I do have husband & family. I’m not sleeping which doesn’t help. It’s just so overwhelming
Feeling angry
I have recently been diagnosed and had a lumpectomy last Thursday. I’m feel fine not overly sore but tired. Mine was picked up on a mammograms so early and I’m very grateful and know how lucky I am. I’m ok with diagnosis 1 in 7 my turn. The issue is I’ve been through so much recently and I’m finding myself angry. Well the last 2 days. 2 knee replacements, fibromyalgia, depression, late adhd diagnosis at 62, mum with dementia I’ve had to put into care, I sold her house without her knowing which is heart breaking - no help from siblings and that just this year. Lol. I had a breakdown a few years ago through work, got divorced, my dog died and I burnt my nachos the other day. A bit of light relief. There is more but that will do. I’m exhausted keeping a lid on everything. I’ve spoken to my psychologist who suggested Emdr. I’m by myself and just so angry. My kids have their own lives and basically my safe place is my home (with a massive mortgage) and my dogs. I had started a wonderful new business but have had to put that on hold until I find out what happens next. Which is next Monday. This is not a why me post it’s a is it normal to be angry. Not all the time but it’s scathing and my dogs have heard some words that I have never mentioned before. I’m not really good at asking for help. And was disappointed with the support I received with my knee replacements so reluctant to go through that rejection again. I think maybe it’s the lack of control, not knowing where we go from here. Again I know how lucky I am and whatever treatment (looks like radiation and hormone therapy and possibly another op and chemo if it’s travelled) I will gladly do and be thankful. I guess I’m just bewildered and have no idea what’s normal and whats not. And if I’ve honest I’m teary too. Ok I feel lonely and unsupported as well.
Partner Issues
Hi there everyone. I’m really struggling at the moment. I was diagnosed with Stage 3 IDC and had to have a unilateral mastectomy, chemo and radiation . Unfortunately my partner of 7 years was unable to cope with the physical changes and never wanted to see me naked after the operation. He wasn’t very sensitive about saying “no” to my offer either. He recently cheated and we broke up. I feel very alone but determined not to date again until I’m ready - if ever. Has anyone else experienced similar ? I think I am on grief and feeling very disillusioned.
Mental health and new diagnosis.
Hi all, been struggling really bad finding out i have cancer in my right breast early diagnosis. I dont know what sort as i cant cope with the details of it all. I have seen the doctors and waiting MRI appointment and surgery date. I am really struggling with the anxiety and the moving forward bit. I suffer with anxiety and depression quite badly. I was given the option of just having the two lumps removed or the whole breast. I cant decide which option will help me move forward better. So firstly is there any mental health accept to this organisation? I only have my hubby to rely on who is also classed as my career. I am unsure which option to go with as my mental health plays a big part in my descion. I need to make a descion that i can be happy with and wont make my anxiety worse. Unsure of who to talk to or where to go for help.🌱Wednesday Wellness - 01July26 - Writing it out.....📝
This Wednesday, we wanted to touch on a simple, accessible, and budget friendly self-care technique that many forget is 'write' at their fingertips... literally! ✍🏻 When you are living with breast cancer, emotions can feel layered, unexpected, and at times overwhelming. There can be moments of fear, sadness, gratitude, anger, hope, and everything in between, sometimes all in the same day. Finding a safe way to process these complicated feelings is important, and one way to do this is to write it out ✨ Journaling is not about perfect words or neat sentences. It is about giving yourself space to be honest. Putting thoughts onto paper can help untangle emotions that feel too big or too confusing to hold inside. Many people find that writing helps bring a sense of clarity, calm, and even relief. Writing can also create a sense of control when so much feels uncertain. It allows you to slow down and acknowledge what is happening internally, without judgement or pressure. Over time, it can become a way to track how you are feeling, notice patterns, and recognise your own strength and resilience. 💪💞 If you would like to try writing today, here are a few gentle prompts to support you: 📝 What feelings have been sitting with me lately? 📝 What has felt heavy, and what has felt lighter? 📝 What is something I wish others understood about how I am feeling? 📝 What has helped me cope, even in a small way? 📝 If I spoke to myself with kindness, what would I say? There is no right or wrong way to do this. You might write a few words, a paragraph, or simply jot down dot points. Every bit of expression matters. If it feels right for you, you are welcome to share a reflection or even just one word below. Your voice might be exactly what someone else needs to hear today. 🌸So confused, scared and teary
Hi all, I was just diagnosed yesterday with DCIS intermediate grade 2 and told to get off my HRT patches immediately. I have 3 areas in the one breast so I think i will need a masectomy. I have been contacted by Peter Mac in Melbourne regarding my referral and just waiting on confirmation of my appointment date. My brain is saying if I had to have cancer this is the one to get but my emotions are being ridiculous, so teary inside but cool and calm on the outside trying to support everyone else. If I do need a masectomy i want to have reconstruction surgery on the same day with a small implant but Im so worried as 6 months ago I was let go at work due to business downsizing and ive really struggled to find another job, my mum has just passed away and any savings I had have helped with the funeral etc so basically I am seriously going through hardship and only just paying my rent on my job seeker payment. I am so scared that I will find out going through this process there are some unexpected charges that arent included, all the sites say peter mac is free and I am bulk billing but Im so scared that my health is going to held back due to financial stress. Has anyone had this process done at peter mac, chose the medicare bulk billing option and was their reconstruction covered? Sorry Im really rambling here but its so much easier to type this to a stranger than someone I know. xxxxx
Emotional support
I was diagnosed in April and have had a lumpectomy. Was going to be radiation next but my Ki67 levels are a bit high so having Endo predict test done. Oncologists are saying possibly chemo now. I am very anxious. Don't have much support. One daughter at home is autistic and the other has gone to uni so not home much. Partner and I separated so living separated under one roof which is so hard. Just need some support.Feeling overwhelmed
Hi thereAll I am 59, happily married, have two adult children. One grandson and baby no 2 due anyday now... Had surgery last week for lumpectomy and Sentinel node biopsy. Everything went well Saw surgeron yesterday . Lymph nodes are clear. Margins good. My issues is I am SO overwhelmed. Smiling for family. Smiling for friends. Little background. I had **bleep** cancer 10 years ago, back in 2016. Chemo and radiation. It was brutal. The burns were horrible. The exhaustion was the worst. Everyone is saying.... your so lucky you caught it early. You've done this before... you'll be right. Support is encouraging and I am lucky to be surrounded by lots of love. I am to be a grandmother again in two weeks and have a lively gorgeous 2 year old grandson. Timing suck.... I am overwhelmed with sadness I am overwhelmed With discourage, feeling of resentment. Feeling very isolated. **bleep** THIS CANCER... so sorry for language but it express how I feel. I want to shout. Cry. Hit something and hide under the covers and not deal with this. I know that I should be grateful. I am sick and exhausting from smiling on the outside, but paddling like hell of the inside. Hiding my emotions. I still work. Love the job. I work for a Toy library as assistant. Its not a stresing job. Only 3 days a week. They have been wonderful. How has everyone else cope. I know what I am going through is normal. Can anyone suggest a good cancer support group. I live in Victoria on the Mornington peninsula. Love and support to everyone going on this same journey Let's kick ass . Cancer sucks. XxxxxxHello
Hi all! It has been quite some time since I have frequented the BCNA online forum. I was an avid contributor when I was going through diagnosis and treatment. Just wanted to come on and say Hello and let others know that are starting out that as time goes on and you take on treatment a routine starts and eventually you can start to see brighter days. Me, along with others are living proof that life takes on a lighter, brighter side once the trauma of diagnosis and treatment settles and you can focus on getting through it and hopefully better for it. It is evolving! Fatigue is one to watch for and understand as it really takes it out of you but eventually a new normal evolves! The Kylie Minogue documentary that Kristen has so eloquently spoken of shows there's light at the end of it all. More Than a Documentary: Why Kylie's story means so much | BCNA Online Network Best wishes to all
