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Divorcing after treatment
Is there anybody out there who decided to end their marriage after treatment. What lead you to this and how did you go about it? My husband and I have had issues for a long time. But now it seems like I can’t shoulder his issues as well as dealing with the possibility of a shortened lifespan. I finished treatment only last week so I’m wondering if I’m just dealing with what I’ve just been through or this needs to happen. Any advice would be great. Thank you xo545Views0likes14CommentsRe: Dealing with unhelpful comments
@Zoffiel. 100%. Great responses. I’m going to have to practice a few in my downtime. (Not so) funnily enough, he has had a large number of health issues over the last few years. Meanwhile the “I’m so tired must rest...treatment” seems to bide me some sanity.13Views3likes0CommentsRe: Dealing with unhelpful comments
Thanks @arpie. Venting has helped immensely and sort my mind out a bit. Family was always going to be a bit of a minefield going through this but you do what you can do. I can relate. Going to protect my energy and do something nice next time they come around. My health and sanity’s priority at the moment.11Views3likes0CommentsDealing with unhelpful comments
Hello everyone I’m just reaching out to see if anyone has some wise words on how to deal with the less supportive people in your life. After a great day yesterday with amazing friends my in-laws decided to pay a visit. They come with their own issues and challenges which the family have grown to deal with in their own way (positive and negative). But today my father in law abruptly asked in front of the group (namely my husband and 7 year old daughter) “so what’s your prognosis?”. I’m not sure what I was expected to say. I’ve been diagnosed with metastatic IBC but have been responding really well to my therapy so far and we’re seeing results which we were happily chatting about. My daughter was upset by this discussion. Quite upset I just went up to bed claiming fatigue but cried for the rest of the visit. My husband who has been on the brunt of this for most of his life was very supportive thank god. I know everyone deals with things differently and we don’t always say the wrong things but this completely flawed me and put me back a few steps emotionally. Thanks for listening xoRe: A tiny inflatable boat in a huge storm
Hi @RiotAtMidnight. I’m an IBCer too! I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I was diagnosed in December and started chemo within a week. I’m being treated aggressively but have handled the treatment pretty well so far. My biggest issue has been with the hormonal blockers though. Three treatments in and my rash is almost gone with no more swelling and pain. I turned down a job offer when I was diagnosed based on advice of my GP. Based on how I’ve been going I could be working although in a more flexible way. So I reckon you could be ok continuing your business in some way. Everyone is different though and so is the treatment. Best of luck. Happy to chat more if you’d like. xo8Views1like0CommentsRe: Struggling
Hi @CarrieP Sorry to hear you’re having a rough time. Tomorrow is my second treatment and I’m feeling a bit anxious too. I was fine with the first one oddly enough. From what I’ve been told, everyone is different both in terms of the physical and emotional reaction. My onco said I wouldn’t lose my hair until the second treatment but it’s almost gone. Likewise she said I wouldn’t see any effect until after my second but I’ve seen some improvement (mine is really visible). So who knows? All I know it’s important to stay strong and keep going. Those biopsies are awful. I’ve had weird pains everywhere and I’ve been completely paranoid. Try and take joy in the small things if you can. If not make sure you get the proper support. These BCNA nurses are great or connect with your GP. You’ve got this. xo14Views2likes0CommentsRe: Newly Diagnosed and trying to cope
@Suzie82 I’m glad I could give you some tips and support. Just to let you know I didn’t have much nausea with the first chemo and I got a pretty strong dose. I do get tired though but every day gets a little better. Everyone is different though. xo5Views2likes0Comments
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