Sounds like you're doing great @JJ70 - so many other DIEP gals mention the tight abdo scar - I'm pretty sure that lasts for ages. What do they say about the hard lumpy bits? Where are they from?
I'm not going to have recon until sometime in 2019 because I'm going to have radiation after chemo - my plastic surgeon (who I love) is very conservative about recon on radiated skin. He told me that he'll consider doing a DIEP around 6 months after my rads finish, or if I opt for a transfer to implants then it will be around 12 months after rads. I'm only due to finish Chemo at the end of September and then radiation will be in October/November.
Hopefully the expanders will stand up to radiation - they're supposed to!
My healing colours head wraps arrived yesterday - they're so gorgeous!! xx