Oh @sister, what a load on your already full plate! First of all my condolences on your father-in-law. I realise that there is some relief and release at this moment but it's still hard on everyone. Your poor husband, the stress must be almost overwhelming. "Only time will tell" is a most awkward strategy, especially with a painful condition.
There must be some way to get your daughter to the swimming. With the parents of the other kids? Can you speak to the principal of the school? Is there a best friend of anyone in the family you could ask? The head of PE? Who has said 'if there's anything I can do to help'? Can you speak to someone organising the championships and say I can get her to the hospital but could you arrange transport from there? Play the cancer card! Could you even delay your chemo by an hour or two to deliver her? You've probably already thought of all these things but I feel your pain keenly on this one. Gargh!
I've been awake for an hour, cold, hot flush, cold, hot flush, worrying, worrying, thoughts swirling, feeling down. You've given me something else to think about Gaye, and I shall keep thinking on it... K xox