@Shorelle I think it's because it happens so incredibly suddenly and without warning, so its overwhelming and leaves you in a state of shock for quite some time. You then start on your various treatments and are on auto pilot and we actually don't give ourselves enough credit of the complexity of all of this. Physically, mentally and emotionally are so so hard to try and balance because we're busy doing all that we should that it takes time to catch up mentally and emotionally..it really is a process.
The girls are right...so key....Be Kind to you, cut yourself some slack and give yourself some time to digest it all. I don't know I think its just finding peace within yourself to deal with each step as you go in a way that you can manage and just feel ok. I struggled a bit after my 2nd diagnosis but realising emotionally is so complex, so slow and steady and loving me so much more through each step. Really became a day at a time and just acknowledging how I felt in every moment then letting it go.
Hugs
xx Melinda