Questions and statements said to me and my thoughts in brackets after. I know I should probably just say them but my father in law died from cancer less than a year ago and family members are still hurting so I answer questions accordingly (not to how I think). You're so strong (if only you knew)I don't know how you do it (I didn't know I had a choice)You're an inspiration (what? You want cancer too?)I love how you can smile (it is a grimace)How has your week been (where do I start)How did the treatment go this week (fine if you like needles, nausea and headaches)How much longer (lifetime)What happens next (I smack you in the head)You look really well (uh huh, right)How are the side effects (thriving)You look a bit tired today (really? I wonder why)

Heard often “ so when do you finish this treatment “? My response as a metastatic BC patient “ till it fails” and then this week an exercise physiologist asked the same question when taking my history replied “ I’ll just write “ ongoing”. I think I’m going to enjoy working with that person!

Hello @Blossom1961 So true !!! It is amazing how the world sees us as they think we are/should be, often not really seeing the pain behind the smiles. I guess that is the majority of human nature. I do like your thoughts.Keep up the humour as that takes us a long way at times.Summer :)

@MeganM. I probably would have answered the same. Your reactions at this stage will be what they are. It doesn't matter too much as it's your pressure cooker. Sometimes businesses, such as gyms have a high turnover of staff and there is no personal interaction. He probably sat down and cold called with the same opener.. Before diagnosis I'd sometimes get asked in Woollies by young staff members 'and how are you today' I'd say 'do you really want to know, if so I'll buy you lunch because it will take that long.. Bless them, they would smile, and so would I. Fingers crossed for the future

Thanks I normally wouldn’t be so up front but this salesman kept going on and on about 3 times..”how is your health ?” Wel now he knows and yes I hope he learns how to read his audience better as most have grey hair and I’m sure some sort of health issue

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kmakm
Member
7 years ago
It's like you've been in my head...
Annie_C
Member
7 years ago
@Blossom1961
My Kimberley manners want to use the thoughts in brackets, however I will use the 'nice girl' manners my mother insisted on!
iserbrown
Member
7 years ago
Oh that is so true and yesterday I was hurting like blazes and a neighbour that I ran into in the street said to me "you look good" to which I replied it must be the beautiful day we're having bringing out the best in us - as I walked away grimacing with pain. Guess we're all good at hiding it!

I know I tend to say I'm fine, thank you!

I just found this on the net, copy and paste
What does fine mean in psychology?
"FINE" is a song by hard rock band Aerosmith. It was written by lead singer Steven Tyler and lead guitarist Joe Perry. The song title is an acronym for "Fucked Up, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional", as stated in the album's liner notes.
arpie
Member
7 years ago
Nailed it in one @Blossom1961 !!

Yep, we are all very good at saying what we think they want/expect to hear .....

My whole torso was aching/hurting all of yesterday & last night & I was thinking WTF has caused this? How long do I wait until I do something about it?? ....... I took some Voltaren with dinner & luckily it 'fixed itself' about midnight. I am hoping it doesn't happen again - I felt like I was 95! :(
Blossom1961
Member
7 years ago
Actually there is one thought that gets spoken
How is the support? Fantastic, my forum group is the best.
I am so mean!
June1952
Member
7 years ago
Hello @Blossom1961
So true !!! It is amazing how the world sees us as they think we are/should be, often not really seeing the pain behind the smiles. I guess that is the majority of human nature. I do like your thoughts.
Keep up the humour as that takes us a long way at times.
Summer :)
Blossom1961
Member
7 years ago
@kmakm It is funny how BC makes us think along the same lines in many areas
kmakm
Member
7 years ago
Great minds think alike...
Blossom1961
Member
7 years ago
How come nobody said "You look amazing" to me before I had BC?

Today I responded honestly "I don't feel amazing. I am tired and over it. I have a really sore stomach and my ankles and belly are swollen." The look on their faces was worth the honesty. They didn't know how to escape! Naughty!
CarmelS
Member
7 years ago
Too funny for words........
Even though its been 7 years since my treatment my favourite will always be ......
You look so good, your absolutely glowing ! (Why yes,...... amazing what a few toxic chemicals do for your complexion ........)