Un pc thoughts
So im writing this just to get it out. I dont really expect a solution. Apologise in advance if the un pc nature of this is not nice. I am getting a counsellor soon. Ive been aware all along that ...
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Hi @MicheleR,
it is really tough hoping friends and family will “stay the journey” with you. I sent out an informative text a couple of months in, before I started on (neoadjuvant) AC-Taxol, requesting people get in touch, “but please, no questions, advice or stories” (I was quite overwhelmed with all the new info). A few people texted encouraging words back, a few rang me. Some didn’t.
I was/am half-way between miffed and quite relieved, because I find talking about it exhausting! Recently my sister told me it was my fault ‘people’ hadn’t got in touch with me because I didn’t give them enough info and ‘they’ thought the worst. I reject that! I told her c’mon! Who? “Well, I did” she said. She tends to think the worst, always. I have decided that it’s not my fault how others cope with my diagnosis.
it is really tough hoping friends and family will “stay the journey” with you. I sent out an informative text a couple of months in, before I started on (neoadjuvant) AC-Taxol, requesting people get in touch, “but please, no questions, advice or stories” (I was quite overwhelmed with all the new info). A few people texted encouraging words back, a few rang me. Some didn’t.
I was/am half-way between miffed and quite relieved, because I find talking about it exhausting! Recently my sister told me it was my fault ‘people’ hadn’t got in touch with me because I didn’t give them enough info and ‘they’ thought the worst. I reject that! I told her c’mon! Who? “Well, I did” she said. She tends to think the worst, always. I have decided that it’s not my fault how others cope with my diagnosis.
It is tough staring at ones mortality. It is also tough staring at your friend’s mortality. Steadfast friends don’t waver. I have a few of those.
Someone wise said to me early on, “people often feel really helpless, so they may cope better if you can give them something to do for you”. That has been good advice. It has helped some people feel connected and less scared, I think.
The past 8 months in Victoria Covid has permitted social and physical isolation and numbing in everyone. I’m also taking that into consideration. Everyone’s managing as best they can, is what I say to myself... Including all of us women dealing with BC!
The past 8 months in Victoria Covid has permitted social and physical isolation and numbing in everyone. I’m also taking that into consideration. Everyone’s managing as best they can, is what I say to myself... Including all of us women dealing with BC!