Un pc thoughts
So im writing this just to get it out. I dont really expect a solution. Apologise in advance if the un pc nature of this is not nice. I am getting a counsellor soon. Ive been aware all along that ...
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@Dory65
It’s unfair, it’s frightening, it’s disempowering - anything you can throw at it is fair enough. But the hardest of all is that your oncologist can’t tell you anything as hard fact. He/she can give you stats (been there), likely outcomes (there too), possible variations, but predict how a complex, and sometime unpredictable disease will manifest itself over time in one individual? No, we are not there yet. That’s not your oncologist’s failing either. Anyone who gives you an absolute answer is deluding you or themselves. And so some of the decision making rests with us. It does in so many things in life - it’s just that we usually feel better prepared for them. Let it out here, then consider telling your oncologist what your absolute priorities (make a priority list!) for how you live are. That might help both of you decide a path that you can accept. Best wishes.
It’s unfair, it’s frightening, it’s disempowering - anything you can throw at it is fair enough. But the hardest of all is that your oncologist can’t tell you anything as hard fact. He/she can give you stats (been there), likely outcomes (there too), possible variations, but predict how a complex, and sometime unpredictable disease will manifest itself over time in one individual? No, we are not there yet. That’s not your oncologist’s failing either. Anyone who gives you an absolute answer is deluding you or themselves. And so some of the decision making rests with us. It does in so many things in life - it’s just that we usually feel better prepared for them. Let it out here, then consider telling your oncologist what your absolute priorities (make a priority list!) for how you live are. That might help both of you decide a path that you can accept. Best wishes.