@arpie, he is now. Change is hard for everyone. We let one of our children's room get ridiculous then we had to buy a new bed which necessitated removal of his stuff in another room. Normally I helped with clean outs but I can't this time. They are doing a big box together a night. Husband isn't here during the day and assumed I had time on my hands.i explained that most days I can do 2 or 3 small housework tasks and doing other things mean they won't get done. Ive since told him my life needs to change. Its an adjustment.