Tonight I went to a school event for my son. A newer friend I hadn't seen very well said to me "if ever you need to talk...I know someone at work with breast cancer who would be happy to speak to you". The conversation got worse when she mentioned someone else and then caught herself because they had died. At this point I thought I'd better save her and said its alright I have a reasonable prognosis and then feined tiredness and excused myself. Other people looked at me, flickered recognition then averted eyes.