I guess everyone is on their own journey. Maybe we are somewhat enlightened. I dont wish to cut people out who care but are not coping but ultimately you cant have a one-sided relationship. I suppose im pleased my relationships are where I thought. My parents, my son, mostly my hubby, my sister have been important. Some work mates have really stepped up. Maybe it is a bit easier without the more intimate relations. I dont want to make people uncomfortable but its a bit much to have to alter myself to avoid their discomfit.