One of the things that you come to realise through this is the difficulty people have in dealing with cancer. How they express it comes across in many ways. From ignoring you, to tiptoeing around you, to ignoring the cancer altogether (well, you're over it now, aren't you?) and many variations on the theme. There are very few people it seems, who can just acknowledge that what you went through is huge and that it doesn't ever really stop, and that you're still under there, changed but still you.