Hi Kim, Sorry to hear that your struggling both with chemo and with guilt. The wonderful what if game can be played for minutes, hours, weeks even lifetimes, and still leave you with frustration and unanswered questions. How lucky are we all to be here, having available treatment and able to look forward to a future. I love to look for one really beautiful moment to enjoy each day whether it's a gorgeous sunrise, magnificent flower in my garden or savouring a good laugh with family, friends or work colleagues. Don't beat yourself up for being human!! Treatment from the initial diagnosis can be so very fast that it leaves you feeling totally bewildered, and feeling as though your trying to catch up.But you will get over the blaming, you'll get through your treatment and you are already a major force of strength. Look how far you've already come!!! Be gentle on yourself, you're doing wonderfully!! Big hugs Xx Cath