Hi Sonia, Welcome to the site - you'll find it a headsaver. I was diagnosed last December and it came out of the blue. Tumour was bigger than could be seen and I went from partial to full mastectomy in January. I have 3 kids tweens and teens. I've been honest with them at every stage and have told them what I know (I steer clear of the 'whatifs') and they have been great at getting on board and helping with things. Secrets have a way of seeming worse than the truth. Good luck with it all and come back online for any support, rants, information, or general offloading.