My Journey Kit arrived today

The 'before surgery' time is the absolute hardest as tou have the least information and the most uncertainty. I was diagnosed in late Feb and had ti wait 6 weeks for surgery and remember frustration and fear that BC is growing but few weeks here and there will not make a difference. It will be OK as it does not grow that quickly and will not spread for the few weeks you are waiting.

Good thing is they have identified it and you can not get rid of the bastard... Post surgery it gets a bit easier as the biopsy will give clear results and a definite course of treatment so just try to take this time to rest up physically. 

Main thing is that it is identified and is being taken out and you will be OK.

Your partner can get a lot of help understanding what is going on and dealing with it. If you or him contact the Cancer Centre at the local hospital he can be out in touch with councilors (mostly free of charge) and even groups that can help him deal with this.

Frankly I very strongly suggest this as depending on the diagnosis / biopsy resulslts and prescribed treatment they can find it hard to deal with what isngoonf on and it is good to have them have another outlet and source of information as tou have your own wellbeing and emotional turmoil to deal with.

Again, I honestly think thisnis the hardest time for you. It is so normal to be scared confused frustrated angry... I remember mood changes 10 times per minute at times ..

I am sorry for the reason that had you join this forum but amngkad that you are on it while dealing with BC as this is one place where we do get it. We have either all done it, or are going through it so whatever happens and however you feel do know this is one safe place where we will understand what tou are going through and how you are feeling - no judgement.

We have all had out good time and bad times and vrys and rants and outright meltdowns and understand it is normal to have them and deal with them.

With all the unknowns and all the stress and chanhes it is easy to get overwhelmed. One thing I fojnd helpfull when I came across this site (and this has been a lifesaver for me so many times) was to both read various posts and ask questions when unsure. There is a lot in the published literature but it is what the women have shared of themselves and their personal experiences here is what has helped me prepare the most.

Use this time to rest up and like Cath said, use this time to read and understand what your options are so that when the time comes to make those pivotal treatmwnt decisions you can be reassured what to do and where to from here... And in the meanwhile just know that we are here if and when you need us and remember that the main ting is bastard BC has been identified, it is getting cut out soon, you will get required treatment for it and you WILL BE OK. This stress and fear and anxiety are horrible but YOU WILL KICK THIS AND YOU WILL BE OK.

Hugs

Jel