Hi All,I feel a little out of place here, and yet it feels like the right place to be chatting. Its very unusual in men but I was diagnosed with what I now know was a stage two breast cancer on Christmas eve last year. I've since been through 6 months of chemo, mastectomy and axillary clearance and am 5 days into a 25 day radiotherapy course. My oncologist tells me my prognosis is quite good really, she showed me a prognosis tool called "Predict Breast" that says 10 year survival rate for a cancer of my type and size is 90%. I have to say though that the biggest challenge for me so far has been in my head. The fear of recurrence is so persistent. Does anyone have any good tips for coping mechanisms?ThanksDanny

‘Cooked’ is what most of us thought at the start! It takes a while, for many of us, to realise that we are not! Luckily it’s usually a really busy time, with lots of other stuff going on. So you can’t dwell on it too much. Then you realise you may still be around for a while, possibly a long while! But when the fear has abated and life seems much more normal, thinking about living with that heightened sense of mortality can be a worthwhile thing to do. Best wishes.

Welcome @gossy29 - and what a lovely part of the world you live in. No doubt some of the male members will be in touch with you.Congratulations for going along to the doctor as so many men have that head in the sand attitude. Your partner and children must be proud of you.Goodness, you have a full life and I am guessing much of your study is computer-based ? I wonder what course you are doing ?My hubby is not afraid to go to the doctor although he never used to go. Once we married and he discovered I have the 2 year blood tests etc, as us women do, he decided to go with me for his tests (not that a particular one delighted him !). I am proud of him for being proactive.

Just chiming in with "welcome" @gossy29 . You are definitely not out of place but perhaps a bit outnumbered :) Good to have the blokes on board - if we don't hear your voices, we don't know what you've got to say.

Dear @gossy29 Welcome! Nice to have you on board - we know that all of us would prefer not to be here, but given circumstances, it’s a helpful and supportive place!I’m eight years out from diagnosis and, from that perspective, the best cure for fear of recurrence is time! Fear of recurrence is to be expected at your stage. Anxiety about regular check ups and scans is also perfectly normal. I found that doing what I could to keepin general good health helped. I joined a gym! Mainly yoga and Pilates but it all helps. Eat well, reduce or cut out habits you know aren’t at all healthy! I was able, without much financial impact, to cut my enjoyable but demanding job down to four days a week. More ‘me’ time helped in all sorts of ways. At one point I met with a terrific counsellor for a few sessions - she got straight to the nub of things pretty quickly (mortality!) and gave me a few excellent tools that I still use. Nothing dramatic, but all of it has made me happier (yes, it is possible). I am still taking medication but hope to be off that in another two years. Gradually I have fretted less and been more philosophic about the future. Worrying about things that may never happen is an awful waste of time that could be better spent! Take care of yourself and keep looking forward. Best wishes.

Well done - It sounds like you are doing all the right things, Danny ..... so keep doing what you are doing! I hope you don't get any side effects from the Tamoxifen! I am glad you've already taken advice from a psych .... just keep an eye on your anxiety levels etc.@traveltext is one of our male members - he may be able to connect you with other male members here.Along the way, you may find that some of your family & friends believe 'it is all over' now that you've had your surgery, chemo, (ongoing) rads and now the tabs - and expect you to be the 'same as before' .... when in reality, it can affect you 'mentally' for a year or two - and rarely the same again. You may even lose some friends (I think that some almost think it is even catchy & stay away!) But you'll also pick up some new friends, even possibly from this site. Last year, I met up with a fellow member from Derby, WA in Darwin & we had a week of hilarity up there! We are looking forward to doing it again - but Covid has prevent it happening this year!BTW - what state are you in? You can add the state/town in your Profile - and with a bit of luck, meet up with fellow members for a coffee & a chat if there are any in your area. Are you aware that as a Breast Cancer patient, you can access a 'free' holiday from Otis Foundation? Wonderful caring members of the public make their Holiday Homes available to Breast Cancer patients (except for weekends & School Holidays) and there are houses available in most states. They may (or may not) be available during this Covid Shutdown - I haven't checked ... but well worth checking out for a later date. Check out their website: http://www.otisfoundation.org.aucheers & take care xx

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