Couldn't agree more Jane84 and the many others that replied. I lost my Mum to lung cancer & still mourning. My only sibling chose my diagnosis to abandon me including my much loved niece & nephew. A lot of close friends chose the same path.The references to support for family & friends in literature hurts. Let alone the next of kin line on forms. Anyways, I suppose for me the worst bit is that my life before both my cancers has gone & the loss of these familiar people just adds to the loss and the massive changes we go thru. I'm of the treat other's like we want to be treated ourselves. I must be old fashioned.
Yes, I've met some lovely new friends and friendships in the making which I treasure. But I miss the old me and I miss the familiarity of my old friends. And of course I miss my greatest strength, my Mum.